Dating Older Women
EXPLORE
Accept that this relationship, however serious, will be built less
on common ground and more on exploring new territory. Don't expect
your date to enjoy your talks about party and friends for along
time, she will want to relax with a drink. That means you need to
change the topic of discussion. Ask her questions about her job,
her hobbies, what type of music she likes. Even though, it will not
make much sense to you, look engrossed and don't be discouraged if
you can't find common ground. You are after all young and you are
supposed to know only what you've experienced so far. So what if
she's a gardening enthusiast, but you know nothing about it? Ask
her to gift you some plants for keepsake and that you promise to
nurture the plants according to her gardening tips.
FORGET YOUR GAMES
If you end up in a relationship with an older woman, then the only
time you should be playing games is when you turn on your laptop.
Forget all the high school dating rules in order to make yourself
look cool. The solution is simple: Just act your age and like you
feel, not how you think you should according to some dating
protocols you were taught by friends in college. If you feel
attracted to her, tell her.
If you have the urge to call her, do it. Since an older woman is
more likely to be further along in her career than you are, she may
insist on paying most of the time, be comfortable about this. But
do be a gentleman and offer to buy dinner.
BE COOL
Be prepared to handle comments. Many relationships of younger men
and older women have been talked about for a long long time now,
but yet such relationships does arouse a lot of curiosity. You'll
have to deal with looks and remarks from friends, family, and even
strangers. But if you do manage not to stumble by the comments,
you'll not only cope, you'll impress your lady with your maturity
and charm. If somebody can't help but glare at you and your lady
for the obvious reasons, be witty and smoothly say something like,
"I don't blame you for staring. She's beautiful, isn't she?"
DON'T DISCUSS AGE
Agreed the lady you are dating is smart, confident and mature but
be certain she'll not like her age being mentioned at any given
time. You know how women are touchy about their age! She might feel
you are subtly reminding her of the age difference between the two
of you and that could make her uncomfortable. Please, for heaven's
sake avoid a comment like, "Don't we get along so well, despite our
age differences". Besides, it's your personalities, not your
birthday candles, that are compatible - and that's where you should
concentrate. Don't you make the mistake of asking the question
like, "Did your town/city have electricity when you were a little
girl?"
BE YOURSELF
Remember, she is dating you because she likes you. She obviously
had a choice of dating anyone of her age but she didn't. So don't
pressure yourself to act more mature. Maybe, she's attracted to you
because you are young and have a open mind. You offer spontaneity
and fun.
