so poor thing, do u feel pitiful for her?
she was molested when she was 6, but realized she was being
molested only years later and then became depressed n self
multilated herself.
but lucky she had the support of her church friends and then she
channeled her energy to being a counsellor at CHC.
http://newpaper.asia1.com.sg/printfriendly/0,4139,125600,00.html
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SUN HO'S PAINFUL REVELATION:
'I was molested at 6'I knew something was wrong
SINGER Sun Ho's own youthful struggles with depression and
self-mutilation is no secret.By Ho Lian-Yi25 March 2007
SINGER Sun Ho's own youthful struggles with depression and
self-mutilation is no secret.
But she has never revealed what triggered them.
It was a secret she kept even from her own mother.
Finally, two days ago, at a Taipei press event, she revealed the
truth.
Sun (left) said that she was sexually abused as a child by a man
whom she knew. She was only 6.
'I don't remember what he was like...' she told The New Paper from
Taipei.
The molest happened at his house when she was there playing with
her siblings.
The man asked her to sit on her lap. Afterwards, she felt a
'pain'.
'I couldn't fully comprehend what had happened, but I knew
something was wrong,' she said.
She tried telling her mother it hurt, but had no way to express
fully her predicament.
So she kept it in her heart.
But that experience left Sun, now 36, with scars.
As she grew older, and began to understand what happened, she grew
angry.
'How could someone I trusted do something like this to me?' she
said.
Worse, she started blaming herself.
Why did she not resist the man, she asked herself.
The teenage Sun spiralled into depression, which worsened into
self-mutilation. She would use a razor to cut her own hands, and
even lock herself in her room.
As a 16-year-old, the only people she confided in were her close
group of friends, who were all Christians.
They told her to forgive herself. And finding religion helped her
see the light.
'How could a 6-year-old have protected herself?' she asked.
It was her experience that led her to start a welfare centre at
City Harvest Church later and become a counsellor, to help other
victims.
She has even forgiven the man. She said she lost touch with him
since her family moved when she was 9.
And her husband, City Harvest Church founder, Kong Hee, was a
source of strength. They have a 2-year-old son, Dayan.
'He always tells me, look, what you have gone through has given you
the strength to help many people,' she said.
But one fear remained - her mother did not know.
Then, she revealed her story to the Taiwanese press while promoting
her new album Embrace. She was hoping her story would help fellow
victims.
'My first reaction was, I hope this doesn't go back to Singapore,'
she said.
She hadn't kept her mum in the dark because she thought her mum
would be ashamed of her.
Then she found out a local Chinese paper was breaking the news
yesterday. The paper quoted an inaccurate Taiwanese report that
said she had been molested for five years.
As she was unable to get her mum, she called her husband to tell
her mum before the news broke. Luckily, he managed to do so. But
she was still crushed.
'I never told her because I knew she would have a meltdown - which
she did tonight,' she said.
She said her mum called her, crying and admonishing herself for
being a terrible mother. Sun's voice cracked several times on the
phone. She was crying too.
'I want to tell her, it had nothing to do with her. There was
nothing she could do. I am a mother now too. I know there is no way
you can spend 24/7 with a child,' she said.
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