ROM and Actual Day.... same day or different day better????

niwde1982 SG

was confused and dilema whether to hold the rom and actual day on same day or different....

was comparing the pros and cons.....

pros:

1) same days mean u dun need to spend extra money on rom celebration.... save $$$...

2) rom date and wedding date same

cons:

1) customary wedding needs to be on an auspicious date. it mustn't clash with parents and some of the important relatives. therefore, the date we hold our customary may not be the date that we want or the date symbolic to both of us, i.e birthdays or anniversary.

2) very rushing, some hotel doesn't even allow rom to be held concurrently, say 15min before the dinner. however they do allow ceremony to be held earlier say 6pm prior to dinner. but relatives and friends have to arrived early and thereafter the ceremony they have to wait in vain at the lobby maybe for 1 hr plus or so.(hotel normally dun allow pple to stay in the ballroom as they need to prepare the wedding dinner). As they expect flow of pple to start coming in by 7pm.

3) quite meaningless to hold tea reception in the morning when both of us are not yet officially husband and wife. it would be better if both of us have already been officially married before the tea reception.

so for those planning marriage soon or already been married... what do you think? please do share your experiences..........

allentyb SG

Rolling Eyes

JLennon SG

If you can afford the time and energy, hold them on the same day. More memorable too.

Xcert SG

I had my ROM and wedding on different days...better in the sense that it doesnt have to be too much of a rush...

if on the same day...would be something like...
wake up...go fetch bride...tea ceremony at her place...go ROM...take pics at ROM...go my place for tea ceremony....go hotel/restaurant....last min look look see see at dinner venue...makeup...go back to dinner venue for dinner march-in...march-in already...eat a bit...go up change...come down for champage and pics....end of dinner...stand at the door shake hands...shake finish...go settle dinner bill...go up to hotel room...remove makeup...by that time....blur liao...

same day I feel its a little too time-strapped liao...U can "save" time by having 1 location for tea ceremony...at the restaurant...but timing will be quite early...no point lar...unless U are OK with serve-u-tea-if-U-are-here-if-not-too-bad style or U can provide something for ur relatives to do at another location before the dinner starts...depends on what kind of parents and relatives U have also... Laughing Mr. Green

I know its illegal to hold wedding dinner before being ROMed 1st...but I dunno if this rule includes tea reception...can email ROM and ask.

Hogzilla SG

After I saw my sister prepare her wedding, I think it's better to put it on different date.

You need superb planning on everything to prevent all hiccups. Also, run to A venue to register, then fly to B venue to jing cha, dash to C venue to jing cha again, lastly teleport to the resturant, must be very energetic sia.

Remember har, at the resturant, your normally meek meek buddy will drink like there's no tomolo and forcing you with them. You will throw up before the whole thing....

Honeybunz SG

Same day of course! Get it over and done with so that both can go and dong fang. Embarassed

FireIce SG

got budget, different day....
some ppl ROM first to get flat.......then later have to save somemore $$ for the photoshoots, bridal gowns, banquet and stuff.....
ROM not necessary must hold ROM party or chia ppl eat buffet lah....
jus pay $28 go fort canning and say "i do" can le

for those tt want to chop chop do it, then can hold on the same day....
morning tea ceremony, late afternoon ROM, at nite dinner
but bride and groom sure shag like mad loh.....cos u will be busy the whole day...smile until ur cheeks cramp........
the most let u nap 1-2hrs in the afternoon.....then have to change, make-up......usually is the bride more siong.........

some ppl not many frens or relatives......dun even need banquet....ROM + tea reception at some nice outdoor place or hotel function room tts it........one morning or one afternoon will do....

kewty SG

some couples register their rom for example today... but can only hold weddings many months later...

coz have to play honeymoon trip n old folks have to choose the most auspicious day for the xi jiu dinner n 'dong fang'