Originally posted by talk_cock:
Forgive me for being blunt. But I think that your friend is a
walking time-bomb if she does not change. After 2 babies, 1
abortion, a few suicide attempts, beatings by bf, infidelity,
countless rejections and manipulations, your friend still believes
her bf loves her??? What I know is that pple who attempt suicide is
at high risk to try repeatedly unless they change their thinking
and behaviour. If she still continue to pin her hopes on the guy,
her world will come crashing down again someday
..
She is stuck in the past, in denial mode, probably too young to
handle love, not to mention motherhood. I take it that she is
undergoing counseling??? If not, she must go until she shows some
change in behaviour.
There are some things that her family and friends can do:
[b]1) Build new possibilities of her future.
By this I mean to talk to her, ask her to set some goals(from few
weeks to few years) for herself and her son. Any goals (exclude the
guy) like, teaching son to speak, learn new skills or hobbies, etc,
will be fine as long as she can elaborate and imagine achieving
them. This is vital bcos pple commit suicide when they see no pt in
living. It also allows her to grasp her future for herself(w/o
presence of guy).
2) Emphasis the threat of guy to her future
Guy is violence-prone, (got cases where wife-basher beat wife until
teeth fall out, wife still in love with him) what if he beats her
or her son??? He is a parasite, what if he threatens her for money
in return for not harming son???
think of some more
.
Note that [b]step 1 is MORE impt than step 2 and
must be carried out first [/b](Focus on step 1, repeat over time if
necessary), else your friend will be past-oriented and not
future-oriented(she will only think of past happiness, not future
happiness). Pls share this information with her family and
friends
can prevent mishap from happening.
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is 1 baby & 1 abortion. . .she knw her bf dun luv her
anymore but then she still dun1 2 giv up it juz so foolish of her.
. .
we hv try the 2 methods but she juz so stubborn so nw we juz leave
everytin to her. . . 
