Attend weddings & birthdays; angbao only $10

last SG · 2007-02-12T10:55:21+00:00

Sian… 100 table… Then sGGirl07 u must invite me to your wedding… I will definitely give u a big ang bao…

trendz SG

Is it true that when Malay people attend people's weddings or birthdays; their angbao is always about a pathetic sum of $10. Yet they shamelessly bring their whole family of 4-6 to pig out on the available food?
If it's true; don't they know any shame? Don't they feel it's disgraceful? It's ridiculous and simply shows their lack of generosity, ethicity and principles somehow?
Whereas people of other races would give at least $100. And very 'paiseh' to eat the food.

Don't flame me yet; for I did not mention that it's true and justified.

mamamamama SG

maybe $10 got special meaning leh.. like we Chinese avoid putting $4 in red packets because 4 in chinese, sounds like "die"

even if your sources are true, those are only some of the "cheapskate" Malays. confirm plus chop people of other races do that too.

silvercap SG

That's why Malay ppl celebrating their Wedding party below HDB building, the food was prepare by their own ppl, if they do this in hotel like chinese, sure bankrup.

Can u imagine when they bring the whole family 7 ppl go to Shangrila Hotel eat lobster meal and only give $10 ang bao? Laughing

pierre^^ SG

u sure?

all along my angbao always 4 dollar one
i tink out of 10, 8 give 4 dollar

gigabyte14 SG

ur head la, my relatives put $4 lo... dey all giam 1 lo... i always kp dem 1 lo...

maybe dats y i always lose in blackjack wif dem Very Happy

snobbish SG

When chinese wedding in a hotel or restaurant of cos reasonable to give above $50..

But since its low budget below HDB wedding, the cost is low per person so giving less is acceptable

But then again, $ 10 for a family of 6 is really overboard. Smile

Then again, maybe those giving $10 type have no money?

The malay family/ frns culture is very close-knit, i dun think they mind if their vistors give little $$$ juz as long as they all have chance to gather and have fun Wink

bo liao SG

no.. not all malays are lik tat.....but mayb its only to the HDB voiddeak den gv so little..

my friend wedding at the long men resturant, the harbour front... some of the friends, malays.. gv more den $100...

Kuali Baba SG

If the whole family is invited, who are you so quick to criticise without empathy? Don't you think that condemning them publicly like you have is just as shameless?

*Quoted for truth*

ShrodingersCat SG

Weddings should never be about the amount of the angpow.

It's about family - not face. It's about meaning, not money. How the gift is given - in sincerity and with blessing - is more important that how MUCH is given ba.

trendz SG

Why are you so defensive? What empathy? Nobody asked useless, incompetent, inconsiderate and selfish parents to have so many kids when they have no means at all and even supporting themselves would be a major problem.

And in the first place, I wasn't even condemning them. Obviously, you DO NOT know how to read. And why are you so sensitive? Rolling Eyes
The others replied with a neutral pov. But i guess it seems like it's true.

Labelling me shameless is pretty much uncalled for. Labelling an action which is unjustifiable and is simply too much IS shameless. Why?

Okay; let's not talk about the HDB cheapskate thing.
You see; imagine this scenario - Chinese A/ Indian A invited ONLY colleague Malay B to a posh restaurant located in a hotel. She brought along her family of 6; whacked the food and dropped only a $10 angpao. (In this case, the husband and kids are 'self-invites.')

Do you even think it's appropriate? Do you feel that it's too much? Doesn't she have any shame? Or... is it that 'value-for-money' mentality? As in.. I pay little; I want AND will get alot. Or.. 'aiya.. wedding only wat; we wedding @ hdb also give the same, aiya.. never mind lah.'

Rolling Eyes

trendz SG

No. That's not what I meant. Sincerity is one thing..
But you must know how much is suitable/reasonable & appropriate for each special occasion. To be honest, if my Mom gives my nephew a $10 angbao when attending his wedding; it's 'si bei xia suay.' I don't even know where to hide my face man..

Rolling Eyes

Darkness_hacker99 SG

It’s the thought that count. It’s the blessing from the people who gave you. Why not next time you marry then give your relative $100 each. They will call you king. If you give then $10, they will call you wimp.

dragg SG

you got married and invited that family only once right?

Shocked Shocked Shocked

SevenEleven SG

the malays are a closely nick community as such, it is the sincerity of attendance that count. those who are able contribute more and those who can't contribute less.

chinese dinner are somwhat different. it's like you pay for your own food you eat (the calculation of how much you should give). the desire to wish them well and happy is much less diminish by the calculation.

I have received a $2 angpow for my wedding dinner. to me this is a big gift considering that the aunty was already in her 80's and living in an old age home. It's the blessing that is "big"
Smile

Ito_^ SG

Rolling Eyes it also shows the host's "lack of generosity, ethicity and principles" if they should be angry over this. no money dun celebrate weddings or birthdays la.

udontknowme SG

malay culture and chinese culture are diffirent.

the malays may not understand chinese traditions...

trendz SG

no.. i'm not talking about cny. If you're married, you wouldn't wanna receive only 10 bucks from a family whose finances are pretty okay, right?

Ito_^ SG

x2 Neutral

trendz SG

this is not about traditions. this is about ethicity and principles. even if i attend a malay wedding, i wouldn't be so ridiculous to give only a $10 angbao. What a joke!

Why not you say - when you attend a malay wedding, you don't give anything and give them their blessings from your heart. More sincere right? -.-"

CKeer SG

X2. Just to add on. There're Chinese Cheapskates around as well.

Cheers.
C.K