Originally posted by kuaigirl:
ok... it's like that...
i reali luv this guy and to me, everything is reali missing without
him... he's my ex who we been together for abt 4 yrs plus... but
becoz of his ego and possessive, we broke up...
u broke off with him becos he was like that i
assume. let's keep things simple, u love him but u cannot tahan
(not say u didn't try, 4 years rite?), so u broke off with him,
nothing wrong there.
then this came another guy into my life which was so dark and
cold... i accepted him and also tried to luv him... but the luv i
gave him was reali nothing compared to my ex...
dark and cold... nice description but extremely
vague. nvm, i assume that is NOT a good thing for simplicity's
sake. could he have been a substitute? just someone that was there
becos u felt lonely and empty? if that's the case, once u get over
ur ex u will stop trying with this guy... in a way it's not very
fair to this new guy.
i thought that my ex will never come find me but who knows... he
appeared again although he told me he never had left at all... he
wanted me back but the tot of his ego and everything held me
back...
keeping things simple till i get further details, we've all heard
about pple breaking off, going with another person, and the ex
comes back and 3 days of drama later, the original couple gets back
together, leaving them wondering how to pick up from where they
lift off and another totally hurt and angry. i believe once u
break-off there's not turning back. two reasons: first, pple that
are serious and really know wat a true reln is all about do not
break-off that easily, it has to be something drastic, and it will
be drastic enuff not to ever turn back. it doesn't have to involve
hatred, but it's bad enuff to never wanna get back together.
second, pple who aren't really that serious in relns (every 6
months change bf/gf, every argument threaten to break-up, wilful
and immature slamming the phone, cold war for 2 weeks, having
flings while still in reln etc etc) will always break off and patch
back and break off again for the same or other reasons. in the end
also break off fully.
basically, i believe when a couple breaks off, that's it. patching
back usually doesn't work. a very logical reason is becos the
reason that u broke off in the first place is very commonly the
reason for subquent break-ups... so wat's the point. of course
there are cases where pple change (quite rare, if u're egoistic
u're egoistic).
what should i do???
be single....i dun recommend getting back together with ur ex, and
i definitely dun think u should continue to delude this present bf
of urs. u can do it. concentrate on other things like studies, good
frens and hobbies. find something fun to do, have a goal to work
towards. it's very hard and time consuming but u can do
it.
