i dunno y and i dun understand y i cried over ur passage...
a nice passage...i
agree abt ur view abt how guys shld treat gers and vice
versa...sometimes i wonder things lydat myself too...really
food-for-thought 
Originally posted by cwill:
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I have been thinking quite a
bit lately about the statement "All the good ones are taken". I
have a few meandering thoughts on this subject. Please excuse me
while I dust off my soapbox and state my thoughts on this. (These
are just my thoughts, and I could be wrong.)
First off, I have been married for almost 5 years to a man that I
consider to be a good husband. He puts the kids and I before
himself, and I know that he will eventually make it possible for us
to reach the amazing dreams that we have for our future. It's not
like I am drop dead gorgeous or anything, and I have a few (maybe
more) personality flaws.
I watched a friend of mine treat her boyfriends like crap for
years. I always thought that she was so fortunate to have these
guys do anything and everything she wanted and then was horrified
when she treated them like dirt. None of these guys were perfect,
but they were genuinely decent people and it really bothered me to
see them treated in that way. Perhaps it is we, as women, who take
the good ones, use them up and then spit them out. If being the
good guy isn't going to get the job done, then who can blame some
of them for being jerks? I am not saying that it is okay for guys
to treat women poorly, but maybe if we weren't so caustic and
callous with guys, perhaps some of them would still be good guys.
Look at it this way, if you kept getting smacked every time you
smiled, sooner or later, you'd stop smiling.
With this in mind, I've come to these conclusions:
Guys, my advice to you is this, never let a woman treat you badly.
(Okay, the exception to the rule is when she is legitimately mad.)
Don't let your girlfriend walk all over you, stand up for you
rights, not as a man, but as a human being that deserves to be
treated with dignity and respect. Treat her like a princess, even
if you don't have the money to get her everything she wants, let
her know that she is your number one priority. Pay attention to the
things that she likes so that you will know how to please
her.
Girls, some of us need to cut guys some slack. If you want to be
his princess, then you have to give something in exchange for being
treated like royalty. Appreciate him. Let him know that he has
pleased you and the next time he makes you mad, say your piece and
move forward. Trust me, it is worth it. My husband may not buy me
everything I want right away, but he has made it a habit to know
what I want and then get it for me when he is able to. One of those
things happened to be a big fat diamond ring on our fourth
anniversary, in case you are into that kind of stuff.
I think that most guys want to take care of their women. Being that
this is the 90's, it doesn't necessarily mean that women have to
stay home, clean the house and be barefoot and pregnant while the
man goes out to earn a living. But, as a woman, I think that we
need to let down our guard a bit and allow ourselves to be taken
care of, at least a little. I think there are still some good ones
out there.
Having said that, just be good to each other. It is not so much a
man vs. woman thing as it is a human/human thing. Treat each other
the way you would like to be treated. Incidentally, my friend is
now married and I know that neither of them are particularly happy.
She still treats him like crap.[/b]
