Originally posted by token141:
How come you "happen" to see her SMS? Sorry, not to doubt you. You
want people to be trustworthy, you first have to be trustworthy. If
you are trustworthy, you shouldn't be looking into your gf's
handphone SMSes.
Originally posted by Scuby:
I understand your point....I forgot to mention too, me and GF has
agreement not to hide anything from each other....she also can
check my hp
I used not to care much abt my exs mails, smses etc. I
tot it was basic courtesy not to invade. I cant even remember
whether we had made a pact or not to hide anything but I hv this
thing abt being truthful that he knows of very clearly. In fact, he
checks on my handphone more than I did his! (when did i seriously
ever privy into his phone at all till i got suspicious one day?)
However, his frequent check on my hp to the extent of saving my
galfriends numbers in his hp when I discovered one day did struck
me as odd
Originally posted by Scuby:
I asked directly leh. But I also do not have 100% details or what.
I do not know much about this guy too..My GF is trying to prove
that there nothing intimate between them and SMS sent are just
normal......If such exchange of SMS are so normal, where will she
draw line between friendship and serious relationship?
It came to a point that i realized now sometimes I have
to act before I even get 100% proof. Trust on my instinct before
its too late. Perhaps this is not for all cos I'm as blind as bat.
I am no jealous pot at all and if my guy were to comment on some
beauty, I'd join in. He cld tell me that he'd hooked his female
colleague's arm just to spite a girl and I cld laugh along with
him. I had THAT much trust in him.
Originally posted by Scuby:
I can understand normal sms leh...I do not mind also. My GF and
this guy exchanges SMS from morning to evening starting from 'gm'
and can get very intimate at times like' you do not know how much i
love you'. ' i miss you too much' , ' are you free today evening?'
' can we meet in eve?' what colour dress are you wearing?' ' etc
etc.....
I did not understand initially because this guy's name was saved in
my gf's phone as ' jasmine'. After seeing similar sms for many
days, i really got a doubt and got confirmed by calling that number
that this not jasmine but a guy.
Sa me evening I asked my GF who is Jasmine and she innocently
replied that she is her colleague. I repeatedly asked and she told
just another girl. I made her to call that number infront of me and
this guy picked. After knowing that truth is out, my GF admitted
that 'Jasmine. is a guy and told me many lies to cover up when I
shown her the sms.....
Then I begin to find his behaviour odd as in purposely
hiding his phone away, to the extent of putting right under the
pillow below his head when he sleeps! That spruced me into action
to check his phone. Then I realized he was being very careful to
delete all msgs in his outbox. But I discovered some new incoming
msg which was quite endearing like that of Scubys gfs. Worse
still, there were some mutual friends that we know of online and I
realized he had changed the names too though not to the extent of
their gender. Long story short, a marriage of 7 years. We broke up
in the end. He was never honest with me in the very beginning,
during or after. He was never a trustworthy guy.
Originally posted by BrUtUs:
well like tat u literally not wrong but u still supposed to hv some
trust on her n not look at all her msgs... tis kind of thing jz ask
her if she still wanna be with u anot lo, if yes then f the
incident cos might be her flirting...
I really wished I had seen thru his colors right in the
beginning. Much later after were not together, then I discovered
from my galfriend that not too long into our marriage, he had tried
to hit on her.
It could be just some bad eggs. But really, I hope not to encounter
any more people like that. He was one ever deceitful guy and it
just breaks you down further each time you uncovered a new truth
which was purposely concealed.
