Originally posted by xavier1979:
[b]How To
Be A Better Couple
10 steps to enjoying each other better...
1. Be realistic about each
other.
Don't try to turn your partner into something he or she is not.
Let's face it, guys - there's only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world,
and even she has had her implants removed! Give your gal a break
and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to change
overnite with the help of a few facials or treatments.
And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so you're gonna have
to do with what your guy is like! Chill out, love each other for
whom you are. There is more to your partner than what meets the
eye.
2. Always talk things
out.
Now guys, I know this is not your fave pastime or mode of resolving
issues, but you know what? This works with the gals. Don't make
assumptions about each other's feelings. Learn to express yourself
better so that your partner understands what you're angry about, or
hurt about, or even happy about! When you stop talking to each
other from the heart, it's the beginning of the end.
3. Do stuff
together.
Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve
yourselves in some shared activities; something both of you enjoy
or are interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies
together, or just strolling hand-in-hand down Orchard Road. Watch
soccer with him once in a while though the green patch on TV puts
you to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in if your gal asks
for another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest that she go
out with her girlfriends for "that sort of activities" instead. If
you're spending more time with your friends rather than with your
partner, it's a warning sign that you're drifting apart!!!
4. Meet each other
halfway.
If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The Rock"
print, you shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks you to keep
your room tidy. There's gotta be a little giving and taking in a
relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.
5. Show your
love.
Buy her flowers or candy or perfume every now and then, even if you
have been together for 5 years. It's wonderful to continue showing
someone that you care for him or her. Cook him a special meal,
paint him a Valentine's Day card. Knit him mini-socks he can't wear
( like for decoration purposes ), buy him a packet of milk for
breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him...so he knows you can still
be romantic and loving despite having been together for quite a
while.
6. Respect each
other.
Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is you
love to laugh at. Ask yourself if she thinks if it's funny. And if
he has an inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall
guys and make him feel worse! Love is about respecting each other's
feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times.
7. Bury the
past.
Stop bringing up the past. Gals...don't bring up the happy things
about you and your ex to your guy, it would just make him jealous
or unhappy. And guys, don't talk about the happy times that you had
with your ex or mention about her in your every other sentence as
it would make your gal feel unhappy and she might think that you
are saying all this because you are gonna get back with your ex or
not interested in her anymore.
8. Sit on your
jealousy.
All of us go thru' spells of insecurity at the beginning of the
relationship, but don't translate that insecurity into jealousy. If
you're gonna go through your partner's mail and cupboard, and
eavesdropping on conversations, you know something is wrong - with
you!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads thru' the
relationship before finally killing it. Trust your partner; love
has to have trust in it.
9. Keep your commitments to each
other.
If your partner is standing you up all the time and cancelling
dates and breaking promises, you need to talk! If you're in a
relationship, make your partner your priority and don't disappoint
them if you can help it. It's really terrible when someone promises
to take you to dinner, and then calls to cancel it. Don't make
promises you can't keep. If your partner starts to feel that he/she
is not important enough to u, you may just lose him/her.
10. Be
honest.
Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the
morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly~! When we
say "be honest", we mean expressing your feelings clearly, not
being bitingly cruel. When you're hurt, say so, and when you're
angry, tell him/her, without getting hysterical. If you can't be
honest with your partner, who can you be honest with? Love is also
about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probably
isn't worth it![/b]
wah...muz learn a lot from u shifu! 
