Family against dating a ger with a lower edn level

Marco_Simone SG · 2006-12-01T09:13:37+00:00

Parents aren't directly discriminating against education level. Rather, they are focused on the guy's ability to do well in future. I know many of you will...

Marco_Simone SG

For practical reasons...

Any guy experience this before?

Cool-gal SG

discrimination. Evil or Very Mad

Texcoco II SG

I’m a ITE student, now trying to date a RJC gal, told her but she said she doesn’t mind me being at the bottom pit of educational insitutions here in SG, but still I feel sorta pai seh leh

M©+square SG

again?

alexkusu SG

Only on race

tomsss SG

e l i t e s i u m

.... or however you spell that

FireIce SG

if the guy ego, dun want ger with higher education than him how?

TYING SG

ITE so what, u nxt time meet her parents and say at least im street wise and have a higher chance of becoming boss!!! Laughing

buses_galore SG

Taxaco you dating someone in sgforum is it?

browniebaobao SG

x2.

AGAIN?

Young ple bother so much abt education level? Rolling Eyes

still feng jian shi dai izit? Muz meng dang hu dui har?

Ito_^ SG

they were indirectly taught to look down on people with lower educational achievements and background. and such things, honestly, are getting more important day by day.

mamamamama SG

prove to her that high IQ dosen't mean high EQ.

here's a quote i find very meaningful.

"High IQ makes you a sociologist of marriage, high EQ makes you happily married."

let u decide which one is better.

IQ, or EQ

toll123 SG

it is you who is going into a relationship with the girl not your parents so just go for it as it is your rights and freedom to do so.

matrixeg SG

nowadays it is just inter-racial and inter-religious objections only…

Wega007 SG

dating maybe fine.. but deeper.. may have problems.
Ask yourself if U are Father do you want this for your daughter?

met 2 case before
case 1:
Guy (Diploma going for DL degree, just started some small Biz and Biz never really took off) dating gal (degree from NUS). Gal's dad don't like him as no degree and not making big $$$. so after dating sometime bye bye.

case 2:
Guy (JC drop out) but currenty own a Trading Biz in Singapore/Thailand. Gal (overseas degree), just got married and Gal's parents are ok with guy.

fudgester SG

I believe some of you would have read about my experiences related to this matter in Cafe Casual Redux.

Sigh... I find it sad that education level can still be a barrier to social interactions in this day and age.

Confused

fallin SG

Would agree with me that all these prejudices are a result of people from different social classes not having the opportunity to interact with each other? Maybe the older generation that haven’t been through NS will have a greater problem with this.

SGpork SG

hmm usuall is the another way round

Rolling Eyes

Kuali Baba SG

How much do you love her? Less than your family? Rolling Eyes

Marco_Simone SG

We are in the "friends and see how it goes" stage.

She has O levels,I have an second upper honours degree from NUS,well I am pretty comfortable with this dichotomy.

However,my parents has voiced some reservations about me just hanging out with her.They said it is better to stop doing it coz it would give her the wrong idea.

They have also voiced out many practical reasons for not getting hitched to a partner with a lower edn level. Eg,next time when we buy flat,I would have to bear a much higher burden coz my CPF would be much higher...

My parents said that better to have someone with the same edn level(or least poly diploma) so that financially my family next time won't be so tight...

By the way,my parents are not highly educated either(my father studied till Sec 2 while my mom has O levels) they said they dont want me to suffer like they did when just starting out a family.

Rolling Eyes