Some teens are waiting longer to have sex they are thinking
more carefully about what it means to lose their virginity and
begin a sexual relationship.
For these teens, there are many reasons for abstinence (not having
sex). Some don't want to worry about unplanned pregnancy and all
its consequences. Others see abstinence as a way to protect
themselves completely from STDs. Some STDs (like AIDS) can
literally make sex a life-or-death situation, and many teens take
this very seriously.
Some teens don't have sex because their religion prohibits it or
because they simply have a very strong belief system of their own.
Other teens may recognize that they aren't ready emotionally and
they want to wait until they're absolutely sure they can handle
it.
When it comes to sex, there are two very important things to
remember: one, that you are ultimately the person in charge of your
own happiness and your own body; and two, you have a lot of time to
wait until you're totally sure about it. If you decide to put off
sex, it's OK no matter what anyone says. Being a virgin is one of
the things that proves you
are in charge, and it shows that you are powerful enough to make your
own decisions about your mind and body.
If you find yourself feeling confused about decisions related to
sex, you may be able to talk to an adult (like a parent, doctor,
older sibling, aunt, or uncle) for advice. Keep in mind, though,
that everyone's opinion about sex is different. Even though another
person may be able to share useful advice, in the end, the decision
is up to you.
