stay home mum

last SG · 2006-09-11T13:17:38+00:00

make up my mind, i miss alot in life, like kids, happiness, and relaxatin and thing s to do i like. thinking of taking care of child, she is so skinny, now a...

alba SG

is it good better for a mother to be full time housewife to take care of her children, or should woman goes to work? i am in dilemma shoudl i take crare of my child myself or continue working until old. my child is only 7yrs old. i am always got no time for her, cos after work so tired, no mood to teach or be with her. thinking is it good to stay home mum,?

shinta SG

if finances allow... it'd be nice...

Smile Smile Smile

^spidee^ SG

x 2. Very Happy

FireIce SG

do u need the money??

u can work from home or find some part-time work to do while the child is in school

sinicker SG

u can sell crystal casing/screen protector frm home. can sell at cheaper price. people will flock to you!

my mom became a housewife when she got married. stay home, take care of us. make sure we str8 go home aft sch and all.

all 3 have taken/are taking/will take mech engine in local unis.

so advisable is stay home mum. Very Happy

shinta SG

my mom wasn home most of the time... there were days when i didn see her for a few mths.. cos i was doin part time... or cos of my classes...

=)) SG

balance is the key.

Ito_^ SG

x2

parents need to spend time with kids

simplication SG

er… how about selling earrings online?

alba SG

i am really hoping to stay at home and really really take care of my young child age 7yrs old, and she misses alot from me, i really really got no time for her, we met at abt 8pm where i am back from office, then, when reach home, i am real tired, no time to even smile or talk to her, and she got millions of things to talk, and i just brushed her off and force her to sleep cos i just wanna have a time alone or rest, and she got so angry with me n now she is not talking to me, she share everything with her dad and it is sad. but i got to work for finance, but now i am thinking everyday when is the day i can stop working and take care of her, but will i miss alot in life if i stop working. am i so stupid to leave job and be housewife, where now ppl are crazy to get work. i am confuse

BrUtUs SG

its better to spend more time with ur kid... if family income is sufficient is enuff then stay n take good care of ur 7yr old.... give her proper teachings... u wan can also do parttime job...

#$%^&* SG

Perhaps you can try shortening your workday hours and also spend the weekends entirely for the family. Perhaps you can try that first and see how it goes.

alba SG

yeap weekends is so so short, i am teribly tired also, weeekend i am at home sleeping all day or too tired to talk or play with kids, and sometimes we just weent shopping and back i am so tired, i sleep day time and at night i am awake but my kids are sleeping, so can’t catch up much, i am more energetic when i ‘ve got enough sleep and rest. if not i am so sickly.

Diehard_89 SG

I don't think you will miss a lot in life being a housewife bah..sometimes interactions with your kids can bring a lot of moments to your life..and these moments are more valuable than those you encounter in your work I guess

#$%^&* SG

Perhaps you can also consider moving your sleep schedule a little forward/ earlier. Maybe in this way you can spend more daytime period with your kids on the weekends.

Meanwhile on weekdays when you work, do you stay late and work because you are a hard worker? If you are able to go home at 5pm or 5.30pm that will be better. Some people just stay late and continue to work although officially they can go home and continue the next day. Perhaps you can try and see whether you can set a tighter schedule, stop at 5pm or 5.30pm. If you think it's needed you can talk to your boss and tell him you want to spend more time with kids, and tell him you promise to maintain work standards.

Maybe you try to workaround through these issues first...then see how it goes for you.

shinta SG

www.karencheng.com.au

here's a blog of someone who decided to be a stay home mom...

the blog's more about her sons than of herself.

Ah Cek SG

no no, will be disconnected from the society ultimately.

Medicated Oil SG

Follow your heart.

I am not sure what profession that you are in.

But, can your profession be performed at home part-time so that you can get in tune with the industry ?

This will enable you to return to the industry after your kid is old enough.

If you decided to take care of your kids, you have to be prepared for a monotonous type of life.

But, the most important thing is that you have foster a closer relationship with your kids. (That is the most important part in a child life)

You also have to forgo certain expenses (travel, starbucks) so that you can have additional cash for the future.

<Precious> SG

If u can handle it financially, u shld stay home and spend as much time with your children coz I attribute the poor behavior of children these days to the lack of parental bonding. Juz look at families going out. When the little kid misbehaves, all the parent does is shout at hi. Yet the kid usually does not obey the command of the parent........... poor way of communication -shouting at each other! Rolling Eyes

a_splash SG

ummm u also same like me previously ( now occassionally) contacted the sleep deficiency virus Mr. Green

i used to be like that....i struggled but side effect is very irritable, hence hot temper. Embarassed

maybe take some health stuff like DOM? Vit B complex (but don't think its suitable for long term)....

I have improved with time, esp after taking just only a months' vit b complex. Took DOM on and off, couldn't take much cos heaty.

try to reduce time spend on housework ( if you same like me don't hv a maid)...meaning just do the basic will do. Razz (no choice, you can't hv everything)

maybe arrange alternate days for you and hubby to spend time with her?

Like you i have been wishing i could be a stay home mom (ten yrs ago), but due to finance, i can't. Nevertheless, we can still make up to them in the evening and weekend, so its impt that you bring your body to good health...

juggling with work and family is not easy, but it can be done! So don't feel bad about it, set some schedule maybe to help you.

All the best! Wink