Ponders SG dunno them lah.. this was i was Primary 5. dunno.. it really impacted me. i keep my distance with them since this incident.
aku1b0d0 SG trauma? of coz, ur parents are super violent lol. anyway, do u still keep in touch with them?
Ponders SG yes.. i mean.. we still live in the same house and all. But i keep my life personal. don't seek them for life's advice... they dunno about my Gfs.. i mean.. there isn't just that bond i see in other families.. where dads can enjoy their common pasttimes with his kids. family hugging each other when the meet after long time away... etc etc you know what i mean.. i just can't bond because of what happen.. there's just that "hatred" in them from me.
Komon SG Me almost same as u i was often called idiot [email protected] by my mum and i remb pri 5 to sec 1 tat period i was under despression den when i did something wrong like throwing things around the house they will whack me up untill i bleed and den called the police that i throw things around the house . Surpisingly the mother fcuking police even side with them . From that time onwards whenever i do sumthing that they think is wrong they threaten to put me in Boy's Home saying what that they have a record of me doing this and that and it is easy to put me in. it was dam fcuk lor i talk on fone with my friends only they kpkb also cannot den with girl they say is my gf with boy they suspect i [email protected] den what can i do? sometimes in the middle of the night i cried upon thinking of this I even make a deal with my female friend that we will moved out and stay on our own when we reach 18
Nessie SG Same for me here, i don't tell them anything about me, i called home once a year. Actually don't feel like calling also. Their advice would lead me to bang the wall.
skid SG i used to get lectured to and when i messed up really bad i was spanked, bare bottomed, with a belt.
udontknowme SG arr...my mom also now that im not living with her, at least i dont argue with her anymore. but even when im talking to her on the phone, its very awkward very formal and polite and i dont tell her stuff. even when she asks. its not that i DONT wanna tell her, its that somehow i CANNOT but at the end of the day...i think your parents still love you. sometimes they just cannot control their anger... she once told my me "im caning you on the legs so that your friends in school can ask you why..." and they didnt even stop when i was bleeding strangely, i never uttered a sound throughout the whole thing...
Master -_- SG one time only... kana whacked with a motorcycle helmet the visor broke into two and my father deducted from my weekly allowance to pay for it i think it was from my truancy days
SBS3625D SG And did the deal occur? Anyway, for me, not so abusive. But my parents could not tolerate me not eating with them, even if I was in the midst of important things. If I did not appear after a few calls, the cane would soon arrive. Besides that, my mum does not seem to understand that the phrase "you can go to hell" was something like a casual speech (at least between me and my cousins and friends) and uttering that without care in front of my mum once earned me a nice tight slap from my mum, in front of my grandmother. On the other hand, I think it was my fault though, I once had to see the principal in P5 for saying "f-u-c-k you".
sohguanh SG For those ppl scarred by the parents punishment, fret not. They maybe doing it all becuz they dun wan us to turn bad. It is said if parents are not willing to teach their kids well, then let the government police & prisons teach for them instead. If the police & prisons have to be called in, the situation is pretty at the most desperate times. So for those still not happy with parents punishment, simple solution is next time go get married and have kids and then as parents you can finally inflict the punishment you received last time onto them. MUAHAHHAHAHAHAH
udontknowme SG are you INSANE??? senseless answer leh i mean, u didnt like it yourlself, you do that to your own child this kinda thing cannot joke about leh
Ponders SG Now if i think back, i also dunnno why when they cane me i just stand there to be caned. haha Now, knowing how "mentally weak" they are, i should have like run to the window ledge when the cane me.. would like to see that sudden change in their face from anger to fear and make them realise what they have done to make me take that alternative.
sohguanh SG The threat to commit suicide is on the rise with nowaday kids and usually the kids win so now parents had lost an edge to punish their kids. For some ppl thinkin is if you wanna die die lor. Rather you die then later you get into drugs or any other vices that make your whole life miserable and society unsafe. Not to mention parents can save hellavu money to feed you cuz you are still dependent on parents for your living as a kid
udontknowme SG erm....its better that you didnt sometimes it would actually make them more angry... and they might say the wrong things and in situations like that, the outcome might have been even worse
udontknowme SG you know what....please shut up. id rather my kids get involved with drugs and i figure out and help them then to have them commit suicide id rather spend all the money that i have than to have my kids commit suicide.
Ponders SG Ya... scenario 1) They challenge my bluff, saying "jump lah, i bet you don't dare" scenario 2) They realised to what point they driven me and would use psychology. You know, it is how i grew up... that in NS, i think i was one of the most caring commanders around. I don't tekan my men, i punish them to make them realise how their actions have created a chain-linked effect. This way, they accept the punishment better and try their best to prevent it in future.
elitefella SG I remember the time when i was rude to my mom, she took a fork and poked my cheeks till it sorta bled… Tried to bang my head against the wall… Wanted to take a knife and stab me.
Pitot SG Not much caning. But i got lotsa slaps from my dad. damn pain ah his palms. He stopped when i reached sec sch. Mum terror. Step on me.. slap me. But when my size became bigger than her. The hitting mysteriously stopped.. hmm wonder why...
