Do
mail order bride really exist?
The answer is Yes, and No, it really depends on your definition of
mail order brides.
The historical roots of the mail-order bride industry that emerged
in the 1800s in the American frontier: European American men
found financial success in the migration West, but the one thing
that was missing was the company of a wife. Very few women lived
there at this time, so it was hard for these men to settle down and
start a family. They attempted to attract women living back East;
the men wrote letters to churches and published personal
advertisements in magazines and newspapers. In return, the women
would write to the men and send them photographs of themselves.
Courtship was conducted by letter, until a woman agreed to marry a
man she had never met.[9] Many women wanted to escape their present
way of living, gain financial security and see what life on the
frontier could offer them. Most of these women were single, but
some were widows, divorcees or runaways.
During most of the 20 century, the mail order bride
continued with the main method of women putting themselves in
catalogs. Then men would view the women's profile, then for a fee
order the women address. These became the main order bride
companies business method in the 20 the century, with the fall of
the Soviet union and cheap airfares, these companies
spread from Asian to Eastern Europe, mainly now the
Ukraine
Today most women do not leave their countries to escape poverty but
to seek a man they believe will be a good husband and
provider, that is family orientated and that looks at women with
more respect than in many countries around the world.
With the advent of the
intent, the mail order bride industry boomed into a billion
dollar industry, Now with a few pictures and website, anyone could
be in the mail order bride business. With hundreds of
ma and pop shops opening over the last two decade, Most who were
clients of one of the three original mail order bride
companies, A Foreign Affair (AFA), Anastasia and EC,
The owner of ForeignLadies.com met his wife while
working on a tour from loveme.com,
A Foreign affair still today in the largest in the industry,
each week they offer tours to one of a dozen countries China
to Peru and everywhere in between. The industry grew so
fast in 1998, Senator Cantwell of Washington state introduces
legislation to regulate the mail order bride industry. and a
new law Called: "International Marriage Brokers Act" or
IMBRA was born. With stiff regulations, many companies like
Anastasia moved from Bride business to Fantasy Chat.
Although the
industry strongly objects to the term mail order
brides, saying there is no difference if
man in New York courting a woman from California
through match.com,
then courting a woman from Russia. Critics like the Terra
Justice Center has a different out look, saying these men
take advantage of women oversea. But studies have contradicted
these statement and show abuse is actually lower in these
marriages. See "International Marriages - A Report to
Congress"
So
why do thousands of women join these site: Elena Kosalova of
the Ukraine says, "Men here are not serious about family,
they expect women to stay home while they go out each night with
their friends and drink. I want a man who s serious,
mature and who wants to be with his wife and family. I have
met Americans in the past and they seem more reliable and
mature." Elena rejects the idea she is a "Mail Order
Bride"
Why do men seek a mail order bride: James Goodwin, 43
of South Carolina says, " I meet women here all the time, but
I just can not find the values I am looking for.. I have
dated here for more than 20 years, After three days in Kiev, I was
shock at how many beautiful women I met that I would consider
marrying, now I am just trying to reduce my options and pick
the right one. It truly is the fastest way to find a beautiful
sincere women.
So what is the
cost, the cost can range greatly from site to site and from
type of service, AFA or loveme.com offers
everything from letter writing, tours and executive services for
the rich and famous. As little as $12 to as much as $25,000.
The owner John Adams say's the best way is just go over and meet
then women, avoid letters and never waste money on expensive
chat. You can meet up to 1000 beautiful women in just 10
days, it will be the greatest vacation of your life. Joe Nail of
ForeignLadies.com, has stayed with the traditional Letter
Writing, Each letter is $7.50 and but say they do plan on
offer some limited chat option.
Many sites
like,foreignwomen.com,
PhilippineSinges.com, and UkraineSsingles.com, that offer
simple unlimited membership for $29 per month. These type of site
also target pacific regions, like Asia, Latin America or Eastern
Europe.
There is also a site for mail order grooms;
SingleMenOnline.com, that caters to men publishing their photos in
hopes to meet an American Bride.
James Dunn, who is a ghost writer for review sites says
"You get what you pay for. Membership sites to do not
screen the members at all. so you never know who you really
are writing, The big boys require the women to apply in
person in one of their local offices. The companies that
offer group tours will introduce you to hundreds of beautiful
women, for the cost of $1000 to $3000 depending on location, about
the same you would pay for any vacation. Several
companies also do individual tours these can range from $750 to
$1500, But only arrange one to one introductions, Always make
sure they are biased in the USA or EU, Most of the
complaints come from small agencies that are desperate and
need to make as much as they can from you. Just a note, if
the company is based in an a foreign country you will have
no recourse if they do not follow through.
So
do mail order brides exist, If you belive a if a
woman is a mail order bride if she lives in another
county then Yes, But if you believe it just another
dating option like any on-line dating site, matchmaker or
dating service, than No. . It really seems like a doubled standard
in the world, If a women meets a man in Italy or
France, then oh that is so romantic, but if a man meets a
women in Philippines, than ...
