What to give to a malay couple for their wedding?

dibilo SG

i am invited to a malay wedding, those organised under the void deck one. anyone have any idea on what to give them? haha pls share share.

Ito_^ SG

ive no idea, but i sorta envy you. Smile

MooKu SG

Just give a green pow.

M©+square SG

i'll usually give money and put inside green packet leh.

R3SsH|n SG

green packet will do...
common knowledge...don't give stuff toys like dogs and pigs.. Cool

mistyblue SG

Usual pratice is Green Packet approximately 5 to 10 (I hear its a lot so I also heard that they like to invite Chinese cause Chinese give a lot). Unless you very friend you give more.

M©+square SG

wah lauz....i gib 35-40 .... Confused

mistyblue SG

You must get invited to lots of Malay weddings.
Usually my dad is the one who pow the green pow and the ones we attended were at void decks and food is simply one curry and some vege and rice eated with fingers. So that kind of amount is good enough, its symbolic only. If your malay friend invite you to restaurant, then its a different price.

rebound SG

pork chop Very Happy ?

NT2 SG

nv been to one b4. looking forward to my fren's one Mr. Green

M©+square SG

More chinese and churchy ones. Laughing

DeadPoet SG

About $20 - $30 should be fine. Very Happy

Gent-X SG

really depends
traditionally money is not important
last time people will bring like fruits, cup, vegetables, etc etc
when money was quite hard to find
the purpose of a wedding was to gather as much people to make the wedding more merry

but nowadays sadly, people trying to make money out of wedding by invited certain people.

ok for malay wedding packet, i did receive the biggest is $300 (from my friend)
the smallest is $2. usually if i go to any wedding that i'm not familliar, i just give $5. for friends usually between $10-$20.
dont be surprise as some of the packet contains tissue or bus ticket to disguise as money (really cheapo people)

so for non malays, its up to you how much you want to give and yes for me if it's a restaurant i give more;p

newcomer SG

Do you really have to eat with your hands with Malays? I was invited for lunch with a group of Malays and I wasn't given spoon and fork so I thought it was customary for guests to use hands, like do what the Romans do.

mistyblue SG

yes. I eat with my fingers. One time at an india wedding as well.
I was quite hilarious cause I was really messy. Its fun Laughing
The only thing I noticed is that the curry smell stuck to my fingers
and when the chillie was very hot, my hand would feel hot as well... Shocked

elindra SG

We usually give about $20 – $30 per person when we go to our Malay friends wedding.

newcomer SG

I was praised! They said I was good with my hands, haha.

mistyblue SG

yeah for weddings, the purpose was to gather and celebrate the new beginning. For india weddings, its not even a necessity to "pao" anything but usually people bring gifts to bless the couple. But things might have changed.

I had a office colleague who was such a pain in the backside to eng everyone. She was mean, rude, spiteful, arrogant and everything you cannot stand in any person. Then she announced she was marrying her rich scholar bf and gave everyone, even new team members and the cleaning lady her wedding invite. Everyone sat down and discussed that they hated her guts and would never attend the wedding. We also know she just want us to "pay" her money cause she also know we will never attend. So we all donated $20 dollar each and bought a voucher $240 and gave it to her. Such a kind of wedding, eat already will get indigestion. I don't feel like blessing her with my presence. After the wedding she went back to her b!tchy ways as if we all owe her a living. What a low class b!tch.

Motivation matters, even for weddings.

newcomer SG

Yea, what a biatch.

industrie SG

Am surprised u all even gave money...if its me, i won't give at all. Laughing