by Dario Palombi
We all know that it is not beneficial to let anxiety build up
inside. While it may be hard to do all the time, it is important to
channel negative emotions outward to avoid ugly conflicts with your
partner.
However, one cannot help but wonder: Are there exceptions to these
traditional rules? Do some occasions call for us to bottle up our
anger?
Never sweat the small stuff
Yes, there are times when you should keep negative emotions to
yourself -- especially when they involve potential conflicts with
other people. At any given point in your life, you are faced with
certain friends, family members, co-workers, mere acquaintances,
and of course, love interests, who annoy the heck out of you.
However, because circumstances make yelling at them or cutting them
off altogether unattractive, expressing yourself honestly is not
always the best solution.
This is not to suggest turning the other cheek while the person
eats away at your sanity. But in a case where the issue is not
major, biting your tongue and being patient will help you build a
stronger case against said person, should you decide to speak out
when you feel you've had enough.
This may apply to you
Bear in mind that keeping quiet is not recommended in every
situation. The main reason against is to build a case in the event
of future conflicts for which you need vocal "ammunition."
Consequently, using this approach with a significant other may not
be suitable -- especially if you want to maintain closeness.
The fact remains, however, that every time you're in a situation
that may result in confrontation, you want to ensure that you
present a valid argument that's backed up by solid evidence. And
so, as you will soon realize, sometimes keeping quiet can be a
temporary but strategic move, as you can ultimately use your
silence to put that person in their place when the proverbial
chickens come home to roost.