TIPS ON HOW TO FLIRT WITH FEMALES
1. Smiling.
You must smile. You probably think you smile now, but you don't,
really. You should practice your smile in the mirror--to be big
enough to be noticed, your smile will probably have to be bigger
than you are used to.
2. Getting caught looking.
Most people look away when the object of their desire looks at
them. If you want to let that person know you are interested, when
she catches you looking, smile, hold eye contact a moment longer,
then look away.
3. Waving.
A little wave to someone who caught you looking, along with a
smile, is a non-intrusive, very flirty way to say "hello."
4. Winking.
You can wink at someone from across the room, or wink at someone
during a conversation. If she says something funny, or someone else
does something silly, you can give a wink as a way of sharing a
little moment for just the two of you, as if the two of you are in
on some private joke no one else is aware of.
5. Asking "what's the story behind that?"
You can ask "what's the story behind that?" about any special or
unusual thing your quarry is wearing or carrying. Examples: "that's
really neat bracelet you are wearing. What's the story behind
that?" or "That's a really great briefcase. What's the story behind
that?" Even if there isn't much of one, it's given you some
conversation.
6. Holding eye contact
While you are conversing with her, you want to be sure to have eye
contact at least some of the time. At least once it's a good idea
to hold the eye contact a little "too long," just a fraction too
long, so there's a brief, more intimate moment between you.
7. Non-intrusive touching.
This can be as simple as placing your hand lightly on her hand for
a moment, or touching her back for a moment as you walk to a table
to sit down. Just do this a couple of times on the first flirting
interaction--if she pulls away, don't do it again.
8. Checking her out.
Checking out her body must be done properly. The goal is for your
new friend to feel complimented that you noticed her body, not
objectified like some piece of meat. You do this by making eye
contact, then quickly, in less than a second, passing your eyes
down and then up over her body, then back to looking in the eyes.
It should happen quickly, and you should be unashamed of taking a
glance. Just don't do it too often.
9. Using the "Good-bye compliment."
If you are shy, flirting with the "good-bye compliment" may be just
the thing you need. On your way out, you simply go up to the woman
you want to flirt with, and say something like, "Hi, I have to go
now, but before I did, I really wanted to let you know that you
have a really great sense of style, and that I noticed it. I wish I
had more time to spend with you, but I have to go." Then leave.
This allows you to build your confidence in approaching women,
without having to take the risk of rejection--after all, you have
to leave, you couldn't stay even if they wanted you to! (Some men
also ask for phone numbers at this point.)
10. Stopping while it's still fun.
Remember, flirting should be fun, and you should leave the flirting
interaction feeling victorious. Most men leave their flirting
interactions feeling like failures because they don't stop until it
stops being fun. If you stop flirting on a high point, while it's
still fun, your new friend will feel good when thinking of you, and
want to see you again.
