Newbie to SgForums, think I was involved with an ugly argument
today which concludes to something that I would like to share with
you.
Girlfriend,
What we will be like with them,
What will we like without them?
Please do not get me wrong I am a grown up adult nearing 30, I feel
horrible today so thinking of penning it down.
True Story
This is my goal since I was 16, I admitted I was a ugly chap then
gals saw me as a very good friend this broke my heart. During the
whole of that time I indulge in food, so much that I weight a good
150kg.
Things were just not looking my way, I was called up for NS and all
small hope of GFs are bashed. The day I was enlisted I saw many of
my peers with GF sending them off, I was of course jealous course I
admitted I was only fat but I still ok why I am deprived of a
GF?
During the parents visiting day I was again very depressed because
I long for a GF, this I made up my mind that I would change.
I train very hard during my NS and yes I drop to a good healthy
level of 75kg (I stand at 1.92m), slim and tall with lots of lean
meat. I was an appeal to most ladies during that time, had lots of
flings then I met her.....
She was not very beautiful at first sight, she is innocent and I
admitted my first intention is to cheat her.
Things begin and I was getting more and more fond of her, and then
came back the part of fling. I lost her a total of 2 times for 3
years together, all of these 2 times is my fault which I cannot
blame anyone.
I move to China in the hope of forgetting this horrible sin that I
have created to start another new me then I met another mate of my
life (that is 6 months after the mouring), yes she is a Chinese
(someone told me never to trust a Chinese). I have been thinking a
lot of things people tell me, telling me how blissful is marriage
life, how nice it is to have children and how nice it is to
renovate the house to your own liking.
I yearn for a good family since age of 25, I have been out in the
field for more than 14 years. I have tried almost every guys
weirdest fantasy, but none can satisfy me anymore I yearn for a
quiet life.
I realized I have to start something, most of my peers or pals have
settled down got their flat (every time I went back to Singapore
they would invite me to show off their trophy to me) and their
children have grown.
I started planning for a marriage with my current GF of 2 years, I
admit I spend every cent I earn and did not even save any money for
the whole of my life. I started saving and within months I managed
to save up SGD$10k (yes expiates do earn that kind of figure
overseas), but I needed more time more time to prepare to built my
master piece.
The figure the everything that I dream of is coming, then came the
crush of my life. My GF of 2 years finally told me that she does
not like my job, my job does require me to go for entertainment and
traveling is part of my job but seriously I am no longer interested
in commercial sex or anything to do with that kind of thing.
She does not like guys in Sales, I have explained that I am not
educated and I need all these to survive and to crave out my career
path.
What we will be like with
them?
Of course telling my truth story has a part because these parts are
something that I have gone through, just bear with me for a
while.
If you are not career minded, then having a family is not a problem
because they will not hinder your ways to get successful. I am a
highly paid sales man and my job is to sell and entertain, since
this is the case I have my job to consider too.
It is the truth that some men have the utmost support of women when
they got married but most of them did not have a choice anymore, if
they do not strive out they will stand to be jobless.
So is it hindering or left with no choice? I leave it to the
audience to believe and think for them.
What will we be without
them?
I believe that without women (not that I do not like them anymore)
my life will be more carefree, I can concentrate more on my job, I
can do more with my time (learn golfing, fishing and riding) and
get to know more friends of different gender.
Q: I will be lonely at
times.
A: Yes but that time will be short consider the things you will be
learning.
Q: I have my needs.
A: There is such a thing as paid sex.
Q: I want to settle down.
A: Can but do you want to suffer endless quarrel because of money?
I know I am prepared to get shot by a lot of females out here but I
stand my ground, MONEY is the root to all evils. Also who is going
to help pay for that 4-room house? The renovation? The Electricity
bill? The Phone bill? The grocery bill? The furniture? Etc, Etc,
Etc......
I am now driven by decision and does she not understand? I have to
face so much probelm with my factory people going to war everyday
and she has to pick a quarrel with me over my job?
All of my cheonging kakis know that I have change so much, I do not
ogoole at girls, I do not seen interested the least bit in
beautiful ladies beside my future wife and lastly I did not even
try anything funny for 2 years with her.
She already knows that I know the feeling of pain already so is
there a need to?
Any ladies here to give suggestions?
With warmest regards,
Oak
