Make time
That's right; make time. Why the blank stare? You set aside time to
watch sports, eat and have sex, don't you? Why should communication
with your woman be any different? You have to block off an hour or
two for quality time with her, whenever possible. Prioritize it.
Make the effort to sit down across from her after a long day to
discuss work, friends and your relationship. Heck, you can talk
about the weather for all I care. Just talk.
Choose the right moment
Take the time as you sit together, cook together, travel together,
or eat together to voice your dissatisfaction with certain aspects
of the relationship. Just do it in a calm fashion, so as not to
alarm her. Reassure her that you're happy (if that is the case)
with the overall relationship; you just want one or two things to
change. Whatever you want to discuss, just make the time for it and
make it a joint effort.
Be an active listener
You've read it before but the truth is that I get so much e-mail
from men who have no clue how to do it, that I could write about it
every time. It's not that hard to be an active listener but it does
require a few traits that men sometimes find elusive: patience,
concentration and modesty.
Toss your ego aside and let her speak. And above all else, let her
have the last word once in a while. Hint: It's not a sign of
masculine weakness to do so.
