This is an issue, I have been wondering for quite some time now,
and my view is this.
Singaporean men dont really have a problem, it's the whole culture
and size of this country that is driving the local women
away.
Imagine someone, who has sufficient money, is intelligent enough,
has sufficient good looks and NONE of the asian upbringing due to
environment that practically worships western values. He/She would
definitely not want to live their life in a deadbeat country that
encourages working till you die and paying till you die if they
have a choice. Sense of partriotism, loyalty to the family are
thrown out the window, along with the belief in asian family
models.
Man in Asia are expected to start families AND contribute to the
family that took care of them before adult hood. Women, however in
most Asian countries, do not have this social responsibility on
them.
For women in Singapore, to marry a singapore man, would be no
different from accepting the dead beat lifestyle that singapore
encourages. Which is what most people would agree , is a bullsh1t
idea. Believe it or not, if you have a gf who loves Singapore, she
would love most Singapore men too.
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10 March 2006, The New Paper,
SORRY, guys. Joey Swee does not quite fancy you.
In her own words, she finds Singaporean men too shallow, too
domineering and too boastful.
'When the timing is right, they'll say, 'Let's go apply for a flat
together!',' claimed the 29-year-old actress-compere.
She speaks from experience, of course.
Joey has had two Singaporean boyfriends - a three-year relationship
in her teens and a four-year relationship that ended when she was
23 years old.
She also has many guy buddies.
And while she has had no lack of Singapore suitors, she has become
more sceptical of male attention after joining Star Search in
1997.
'It's harder to make new friends because you wonder if people are
trying to make use of you,' she said.
It didn't help that Joey wanted a 'hong hong lie lie ' (Mandarin
for grand and spectacular) romance.
So she settled for a foreigner - Indonesian-Chinese Gani Bustan,
41.
'Some people are nice to you or give you treats because you are who
you are,' she reasoned. 'But with a foreigner, all the 'privileges'
I had are gone, because he doesn't have a clue who I am.'
The couple were introduced in 2003 by Joey's girlfriend, who had
married Mr Gani's best pal.
Initially, they kept in touch via e-mail and instant
messages.
Things got serious when Mr Gani, who runs his own finance company,
started flying to Singapore for business regularly.
He proposed last December aboard a plane. They were returning from
a nine-day China tour.
They had their wedding ceremony in Jakarta last month and will
register their marriage here next Monday. Then they will fly to
Paris in April for their honeymoon.
She said: 'He's a very genuine person and he's very caring and
dotes on me.
'We're from two different countries, so we treasure what little
time we have together. It's more hong hong lie lie because we're
always flying to see each other.'
The jet-setting will continue during their married life, as Joey
intends to continue - with her hosting and acting.
When asked how she managed to keep her 'trophy hubby' under wraps,
she replied: 'Of course you cannot talk about your final catch, or
else someone will come snatch him away!'
