Originally posted by sohguanh:
[b]er, nope. cane is not good for the child's psychological
health. look at my father can tell liao.
You do not subscribe to the idea of using cane to instill
discipline and order? Then how you propose to control very very
naughty kids? Use mouth and advice?
Even in prisons, cane is used as a tool to inflict pain and
punishment for serious offender. Why is that so? It must be for a
reason.
When I advocate cane, I do not mean for every single slight thing
you use cane cuz it will lose it's magical effect once the child
get used to it. Only cane when very serious act is committed by the
child to remind them that that is something parent cannot condone
and should be remembered for life.
I believe cane is there for a reason and our prison services has
proven that cane can and will make ppl reflect on their serious
mistakes. We as parents can learn from the prison services in how
to control very rebellious children.
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i mean, one should not use the authoritarian position.
inflicting positive punishment does not teach a child what is
right. it teaches a child a cane is painful. he/she quickly learns
to differentiate the stimulus.
parents should use cane to stop behavior, and then use gentler
methods to reason with child. best is use social pressures, like
tell the child if he continues to do that, his friends will not
like him that sort of thing. but put it mildly.
i have seen children grow up to be really decent, clever kids
without the use of cane.
