If I love someone, of course I want her to be happy. If she
loves me, she wants me to be happy too.
Now, from how I see it, here is the paradox: for the sake of
his/her happiness and security, one would do many things to ensure
his/her partner gets that. It may even go to such an extreme that
it requires a leg, arm, eyes, liver or even a life.
Then when one gladly gives such sacrifice, with or without the
partner's acknowledgement, the partner will feel hurt and asked,
"What happened?" in the case of
his/her acknowledgement. Without his/her acknowledgement, aka one
left quietly, he/she will ask, "Where did
he/she go? Why he/she left without a word?".
In both cases, leaving quietly or letting him/her know,
one will still feel hurt and sad BECAUSE
he/she loves the person. Love comes in a package: sweet,
cuddly, fragrant, fuzzy, bitter, tough, hurting, etc, etc. You get
what I mean.
Unless the couple has something to hold on to or have faith in a
common thing, ie love for each other, then will they overcome the
many obstacles they will face together and grow stronger in their
relationship. Its also a testament of how deep and strong their
love for each other is.
'You lost your eyes? Let me be your guide.' 'You have a failing
liver? I share mine with yours.' 'Financial difficulty? Let me open
my bank book and assets and lets both sort it out.' 'Scared of what
is ahead? Take my hand. I will be with you as we walk
forward.'
I don't think what you said is *beep*, your description of love is
more towards the well being and happiness of the one you loved.
Selfish love is that of those who want to possess the person no
matter what and without sparing a thought for that person.
