To Peeps Who Have Initiate Break Ups Before!!!

mhcampboy SG · 2006-11-04T00:43:41+00:00

not very easy.... but i will still talk to her... asking things happening around and stuff... if she call den i answer lor... but will still be sad la......

mhcampboy SG

I give a scenario.....

You initiated the break up. You still love him/her. Would it be easy for you in the next few days to actually talk to your ex like friends? Or you wouldnt call at all?

Or if your ex calls, you will try to avoid the calls or talk coldly towards them?

Confused

mistyblue SG

everyone has a different reaction ...

me, I would not loh. Let go liao, so hurt, so pain, no mood to pretend friendly and talk. Unless its a shallow 'love', then maybe lah

mhcampboy SG

So what do you think the situation is if a guy still loves the ex but due to some circumstances ask for break up and yet still able to talk to the ex like nothing happen like tat.....and this happen a day or two after break up...not few weeks or months...

LazerLordz SG

Then maybe he/she actually still has some connection of sorts, and the breakup was done in anger or haste.

mistyblue SG

the guy might have his own reasons loh.

mhcampboy SG

Yeah. Am just wondering, if there is still love, woudlnt it be painful for the one who initiate the break up to talk to the ex like friends?

LazerLordz SG

It took me a few months to be able to talk to her like a friend again, but we've moved on and at this age, it's petty to dwell on the past.

We're close friends now and it feels great.

mhcampboy SG

So what do you think if someone is able to talk to the ex like friends? No love? Still love? Even though the guy/gal told the ex there is still love in his/her heart...

LazerLordz SG

Maybe he cannot bear to kick her away? Were they good friends before they started dating each other?

mhcampboy SG

nopez. they were not friends...

so its hard to actually treat the other party as friends huh? or so for ur case...

LazerLordz SG

it depends.. normally if they were good friends before that, there's a chance that they can still talk..

mhcampboy SG

but they were not good friends before... straaaange... Mr. Green

Cool-gal SG

yes, it hurts.
when u need to pretend tat its nothing but deep down u, how u wish u could tell him/her again tat u love him/her.
both have to pull back their feelings, lest anyone gets hurt again.
as time goes, the feelings of either one will fade, the one whose feeling stil stays, will be the one suffering.
love hurts. love sucks. love is torturing.
pui!

mhcampboy SG

oh me gawd... tat is so true...

Crying or Very sad

love can be hell sometimes..

Cool-gal SG

ya, tats wad im experiencing now. Crying or Very sad
call me a love expert!! Mr. Green

browniebaobao SG

i initiated a break to my first love..

hmm few days later we still talked on phone.. he asked me to give him another chance.. but i din. and i end up regretting till now.. coz i know deep in my heart, i still love him the most.

it's very tormenting de.. u love somebody so much and yet have to initiate a break. dun ask me reason for breaking ar.. dun feel like talking abt it again.

mhcampboy SG

No laa...i know its not easy...

but, when you break up... its hard to treat him like a friend right? even though u are the one who broke up with him... Neutral

Fatum SG

I'd rather she hates me and gain strength from it to get on with her life than to try to end up being friends ....... people do that just to make themselves feel better anyways ....

so .... yeah, I'm pretty "cruel" .... I don't take phone calls, I sever all contacts, I don't acknowledge any future corrospondence at all ......

that helps with the other party's healing process ... better than let her cling on to some hope that perhaps it's still possible eh ? ..

of course, if you have trouble with the idea of someone hating you ..........

browniebaobao SG

of course.. coz when i love, i really love with my heart and soul.

even till now ba.. we are frens, but my feelings for him is more than frens.

Cool-gal SG

i truly sympathize n understand how u feel..
/me hugs bbb