I refer to Khushwant Singh's article,"China bride deserts man
after 3 months"(The Straits Times, 17-Sep-05). This latest article
should serve as yet another warning for Singaporean men to exercise
diligent care and caution before marrying prospective foreign
marriage partners.
The article hightlighted the plight of a Singapore man, aged 42,
who married a young Chinese lady, aged 21 from Hainan, China. The
man had high hopes of starting a family with his young China bride,
but she was reluctant to be intimate with him. Finally, he appealed
to the High Court successfully for permission to start divorce
proceedings even though the couple's marriage was less than the
minimum three years period.
I understand that some Singaporean men, who are eager to start a
family soon, prefer to marry young ladies age 18-22, citing child
bearing as their first priority. However, other than the age
factor, it is equally important that before marriage, both parties
must share the same family value - that is both parties must have
the desire of wanting to start a family as soon as possible after
marriage. It was obvious in the case of the 42 years old
Singaporean man that his former wife did not share his family
value. He had probably hoped and thought that his former wife would
go along with his plan after marriage. Thus, it is safe to conclude
that the marriage broke up three months later when both parties had
incompatible life goals and family values.
For Singapore men who are sincere and seriously considering Chinese
ladies from foreign countries as life marriage partners, but have
neither the time, knowledge and expertise on how to go about in
finding compatible, life marriage partners, they should seriously
consider partnering with professional matchmaking and marriage
agencies which provide personalised matchmaking and marriage
service.
The benefits of personalised matchmaking and marriage service are
as follows:
Before marriage, both you and your potential marriage partner, have
the advantage of knowing and understanding in advance ( without any
guesswork) :
* The personal background information of each other such as Family,
Education, Work, Interests, Lifestyle, Finance,etc. Unlike in
dating, bride tour, cash and carry bride where two partners usually
try to hide certain important facts from each other only to realise
later after marriage that they are really not compatible as life
partners.
* Both of you share similar life goals and family values. These are
the two important qualities for a successful and blissful
marriage.
* Both of you have the desired character traits, commitment and
responsibilities to make your marriage a success.
* The comfort of knowing that you have found a marriage partner who
accept you for who you are and not what you have, who has the
desired spiritual qualities, who has the willingness and humility
to serve you and your family members, able to live with you in
thick and thin, able to communicate and live with you for the next
30 - 40 years of marriage life.
* There will not be any unpleasant surprises after marriage as both
of you are psychologically prepared and being fully aware about the
personality of each other.
* Both of you can concentrate and focus on building your
relationship with each other after marriage.
* You can concentrate and focus on meeting the right marriage
partner who share with you similar life goals, family values and
has desirable character traits. Therefore, you will not be wasting
your time in meeting ladies who are nice looking and charming, but
are not suitable to be your life marriage partner.
I would like to stress that marriage is not something that
Singaporean men should take lightly especially if you are planning
to marry a lady from overseas irregardless of whether they are from
Malaysia, Vietnam, Indonesia or Hainan. Partner only with
professional matchmaking and marriage agencies who place clients'
interest and personal happiness first. It is important to note that
if you marry someone from overseas without any planning, you are
actually planning to have an unhappy and failed marriage.
