hi babylover, i couldn't agree with you more on this. i truely
believe to get out of a failed relationship fast, one has to avoid
loneliness.
however most people failed in doing so because if they held on,
there could be hope. i was once like that. holding on to something
that was long gone and forgo the chance of giving my heart another
chance to learn to love and be loved.
no doubt one should never give up hope in life, but when it gets to
a point when you have to decide to continue with the present state
one dewells in or to lift himself/herself out of it, he/she have to
do so.
pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.
Originally posted by BabyLover:
[b][color=darkred]Avoid
loneliness [/color]
Every time you're on your own, you start thinking and wrecking your
mind. Wash your brain. Think about Hawaii, planets, or whatever you
like.
Get a visual trainer, and solid visual support, with a strong
image. It could be the picture of a climber, a sportsman or famous
person, somebody who faced difficulty and triumphed. You can get a
poster, put it in your room, so that it kicks your blues in the
morning or when you get back home. Or a small picture and you use
it as a bookmark.
Avoid triggers
Stay away from romantic movies. Consider, it's like cheese when
you're on a diet. Avoid anything which is not action or which leave
your mind wander away.
Avoid places which bring back memories. Restaurants, streets, bars,
districts. Avoid your common territory for a while. I remember a
time when I was going to a park, and just getting to that park
could make my stomach like a brick. Once there, I was wondering
between 2 destinations. And I was undecided for 5, 10 minutes till
the next cab. You tend to have special memories, you build up your
own space, your own territory where you feel comfortable and good
no matter what.
Avoid these moments, and all these factors which trigger your
broken heart like an arrow in a bleeding wound. Avoid triggers like
the plague.
Out of sight, out of mind.
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