UK gets her 13-year-old daughter to behave by giving her
ciggies
By Luke Salkeld
Last updated at 1:43 PM on 21st October 2008
Teenager Sam Holt's behaviour would leave most parents in
despair - drinking, smoking, taking drugs and having sex.
But the 13-year-old's mother thinks it is 'sweet' rather than
shocking.
Tracy Holt even rewards her daughter with cigarettes on the rare
occasions when she does behave.
Miss Holt, 43, knows Sam drinks but is just relieved that it's
not more than a couple of cans of lager a night.
And she decided not to get angry about her daughter losing her
virginity at 12, instead insisting that Sam uses contraception.
Miss Holt, a jobless single mother with two other adult
children, told Closer magazine: 'I don't see the point in punishing
her.
'If I ground her, I'm just punishing myself because I have to
put up with her in the house. Instead, I reward her good behaviour
by giving her cigarettes. If she's bad, she goes without.
'She's a little comedian. I let her get away with a lot of
cheek. It's sweet.'
Giving out cigarettes as a reward 'works', she insisted.
Miss Holt said: 'There are a lot worse things she could be
doing.
'We've all got to die sometime. I haven't got cancer from
smoking so she'll probably be all right anyway.'
Sam 'only drinks a couple of cans a night'
Miss Holt explained away her daughter's under-age sex. 'I didn't
punish her,' she said. 'It wasn't a one-night stand. She had been
dating the guy for a couple of weeks.
'I took her to the doctor's the next day to get her on the Pill.
I've told her to use condoms as
well.'
Sam admits having had four sexual partners in less than a year
but said: 'I only sleep with boyfriends. I worry about getting
pregnant because I don't want kids until I'm married so I always
use condoms.'
The teenager claims being given cigarettes for her 15-a-day
habit has helped her behaviour.
Sam said: 'If Mum tells me to tidy my room, I ignore her but if
she offers me a fag, I do it.'
Miss Holt, who smokes 20 a day, also appears relaxed about her
daughter's other pastimes. She said: 'Sam often hangs out with her
mates on the streets and they'll drink lager and smoke pot.
'I think she only drinks a couple of cans a night, so I'm lucky
she isn't a proper drunk.
'She smokes a joint every now and then. I don't think she's
tried anything harder.'
Sam's record at school would also concern most parents. She has
been excluded for bad behaviour more than 40 times.
Miss Holt believes her daughter began to go off the rails after
her partner left the family home in Gosport, Hampshire, three years
ago.
'Sam got suspended for the first time after she climbed on to
the school roof,' she said.
'I shouted at her and then explained she shouldn't climb on
roofs because she could fall off. I didn't know what else to
do.'
Recalling the moment Sam blurted out that she had lost her
virginity when she was just 12, Miss Holt said: 'I thought it was a
joke, so I laughed. I was disappointed. No mother wants to know her
12-year-old is having sex but I'm glad she told me. I didn't show I
was angry and just kept it to myself.'
Miss Holt blames teachers at Sam's former school for being 'too
soft'. She said: 'Now she is at a special school where there are
fewer kids in each class.
'Hopefully these teachers will be stricter and she will finally
get the discipline that's needed.'
The full interview
appears in Closer magazine, on sale now.
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This has to be the ultimate dysfunctional mom..... she allows
her 13-year old daughter to smoke, booze, take weed and
copulate.... and gives her ciggies when she behaves?!?!
Oh.... and she can still blame her kid's teachers for being 'too
soft'?!?!?! WTF?!?!?
