Originally posted by the Bear:
here's the theory....
well, we remember things that stand out... things that are
exceptional, right? so with nice people, you are nice and stuff...
with jerks, they are horrid...
[b]Good Guy
so the girl falls for this guy.. he turns out to be a very nice
guy... he loves her, respects her and looks out for her... then he
screws up (no one is perfect) and that one mistake stands out..
because she's desensitized to the good he's done.. that is the
baseline.. so the mistake is what she remembers....
so after a while, she remembers that mistake only... and dwells on
it.. and becomes bitter and throws him out....
Jerk
so the girl falls for this jerk.. he's terrible and mean to her..
but he does something really nice for her... once... and that's out
of the ordinary.. she's desensitized to his general horrible
nature... but remembers that one sweet thing he's done...
so she remembers this one good thing he's done for her... and goes
"ahhh.. he's a good man after all!".. and sticks with him through
all the abuse...
how's that for a theory.. not sure if it's true but sounds like it
from what i see around....[/b]
your theory sounds sound. my ex actually told me she loves her
jerk bf because he's mean to everyone all of the time, but
occasionally he's nice to her. that makes her feel she's special to
him already
