social phobia and NS

somepersonlah SG

Bah...

i think i regret hinting i have social phobia during the questionarres in the PC at CMPB...the one where they ask u alot of Qs.. like do u smoke and what nots..

i wonder how they all will treat ppl with such condition..

Maybe downgrade?

ermm...rite now im anxious..

MasterCrap SG

Rolling Eyes

Patrik SG

Rolling Eyes

phobic SG

Depends on how bad your condition is. You will need to see a specialist in this case a psychiatrist to access your condition to see whether you are fit to serve.

If you condition is one that you dread to meet or interact with new people but is able to do so if you really need to then NS may not be such a bad thing because it force you to reach out and interact with other people.

somepersonlah SG

ai seh..

wad i mean is...y in the blue moon does the army want us to indicate we have this social anxiety?

i mean for what?

if we have it, so what?

what will they do to us?

i can bet my life for some one who has extreme social phobia may not even cope with the daily life there, interacting etc..and confirm he will be depressed and jump down building.. Evil or Very Mad

Parka SG

Then you should make an effort to talk to people.

Doesn't hurt.

the Bear SG

you seem to be afraid of lots of things...

you gotta get out more, do more stuff... after a while, things become commonplace and you lose your fear of them and wonder why you were afraid in the first place...

be well yah? Wink

somepersonlah SG

HAiya!

its not about effort dude..

u think we dont want to do that? its just that we cant..

u see those ppl having phobia of spiders..lifts..they all run away from them..

do u think these phobics wanna run away from such things? i dont think so dude..

u see ppl with eating disorders like anoerexia, bulimia, they all need help dude.. Smile

somepersonlah SG

exactly dude..

but for us phobics..it all seem too damn hard..

but what u say is extremely true..

the more u do it, the more immuned to it ull be..

wuming78 SG

i am sure it is rather frustrating for you and others like you, not to be able to do something that seem so natural to us.

could you elaborate what you mean by you cant?

and seriously have you sought medical assistance?

the Bear SG

some things that are very hard, are the things that are worth doing...

it is exhausting at first... but it'll get better Wink

a wise friend of mine said this: a short pain better than a long pain...

work at it, and you'll get over it.. beats being exhausted all your life from actively avoiding people all the time...

good luck! Very Happy

you'll be able to once you put your mind to it Wink

phobic SG

Its for psychological profiling and assignment of suitable vocations. Dont worry too much about it.

somepersonlah SG

HI!

yeah..socialising, interacting, joking with people, with classmates etc..and all these should be very natural to almost everyone..

but not us social phobics..thats what i meant by cant..

i give u an example..

anoerexics..

they believe they are fat when they are not..its a disorder..

for social phobics..we believe we are a boring, we are foolish, people look down on us..that makes us anxious when talking to people..its a disorder..

for anoerexics..

no matter how persuasive u are in saying "u r thin" they just cant stop it..

ok i give u another example..

there are some people who have phobias of cats..

cats to us are lovely, tamed, cute creatures..
but for those who have cat phobia..it is just an uncontrollable urge to move away from them..they are scared of them, they panic when they see cats..

its the same for social phobics..

the small difference is just that we get anxious of how ppl think of us..are we gd enuff for them..etc..we panic, we run away..all these kinda things may cause depresion..

it affects our lives greatly..it chokes..

somepersonlah SG

Arrgghh!!!

that means i cant be joing those prestigious OCS or SISPEC!!

Damn it, i regret revealing them..sjnsfslfvnsv..bleahz..

basically rite now i am improving fast..thats alll i can say.. Smile

wuming78 SG

hm.. ok

im sure u haf frens beyond your immediate relatives, frens who were once strangers too. how did u do it then, making frens with them? im sure it was as difficult, and it took time, but u managed to overcome it before, right?

phobic SG

Your performance at BMT is more important. You can still make it if you do well.

somepersonlah SG

ok wuming..

i tell ya something..

its degree of seriousness is to the extend that u have none or 1 or maybe 2 friends...

2 yrs ago, u guess, how many friends did i have?

1..

hard to believe? believe it..

others are aquantances who are "c u, bye bye" kinda friends"

people feel EXTREMELY uneasy with us that they seldom get near us..

due that, social phobics think that they despise us...

and all these become a snowball effect..

phobic SG

You will make plenty of friends in NS.

somepersonlah SG

hahah, phobic, not as easy for those suffering from it..its easy for others to say..

when i graduated from sec 4..i thought i had a new lease of life, new friends..

little did i thought that it was the beginning of hell.. Shocked

wuming78 SG

hm.. ppl feel uneasy with u, and hence this affirms your belief, or inferiority complex, and perpetuates the vicious cycle.

y do ppl feel uneasy with u?

i think if the condition is serious u shud consider seeking medical assistance.