i will explain wat i meant by 'must we keep comparing with
others to know how good is good?'
by comparing with others, u see the gd n bad pts of them in certain
areas. u may pin pt them, or u can be friendly, (if u know fully of
how their culture n system is like), by giving ideas to them.
however, by comparing, yet u insist on following, adopting ideas
which are somehow or rather unsuitable, tt's unrealistic. isnt
it?
tt's y i'd say one has to be realistic when things cant change
much. u cant force it.