Okay I am a new user.
I know topics like these have been said and mentioned a zillion
times, but I have so much pain I need to let out, and wonder if
doing it anonymously can relieve some of the stress. Perhaps
someone else have gone through something similar, and can share my
pain?
I never had good impression of PRC women. I had two good
friends, who ended up divorcing their husbands because of PRC
woman. They are not bad wives, maybe just the usual 贤妻良母 who spent
their entire married lives dedicating to their spouses, mother in
laws and of course the kids.
Another friend of mine almost divorced because of PRC woman too,
but she was willing to give her hubby a chance for the sake of her
boys. And the last time I heard, the PRC was still attempting to
call and message her hubby even though he had already made it clear
to her that he still want his wife and kids.
I didnt and had never thought such thing will happen to me. But
it did. The only consolation is, I was only almost married.
I have been dating the same guy for almost a decade. He was a
divorcee with a beautiful daughter, whom I love and I adore.
He was once one of the most perfect boyfriends in the world, who
loved me, doted on me, and was the reason why I so faithfully stood
by his side all those years, taking care of his mom, his girl,
while he fighted for a new career.
After being through so much up and downs, thick and thin,
poverty and stuff, he made it, and had a relatively successful
small business. And then things changed.
His job required him to entertain his subcons, his clients. He
was earning more than he ever had. The now and then drinking
session becomes frequent. He began picking on my faults, and
eventually he didn't even come home.
And I was indirectly chased out from his place, after almost ten
years.
And yes, he was cheating. With a PRC woman he met in a stupid
lup sup pub.
Barely two months after I left, he came running back to me.
Apologise, telling me how he is full of regrets, etc etc. I had
loved this man for ten years, how can I possibly not soften my
heart.
And just as I thought we will survive this and become stronger
than ever, that PRC claimed she is pregnant, and demanded
responsibility.
Well we dragged for a while, and broke up god good. That woman
probably thought she won again. The first time I was gone, he had
never brought that woman home. And now, she had officially moved
into his place and became the mistress of the house.
It has been three months plus. I still cry myself to sleep every
night. Apparently things have not been easy for that heartless
idiot.
I think it is true that China women are selfish, manupulative
and wicked. He still tells me what a fool he has been, and how he
regretted hurting a woman like me.
I heard from his family that woman flares at him on a frequent
basis, is not nice to his mom, bullies his girl( I ached)
sometimes. They do worry about how she will treat his daughter once
she has her own. Though she is very much pregnant now, he is still
trying to delay marriage. He now realised this woman can never
compare to me, and will never love his familyl the way I did.
But the woman will never let him off. :)
Shouldn't he have realised it a long time ago?
I couldn't get it. May never get it. Those PRC women have a
reputation not for nothing. Why do Singaporean men still fall for
it, only to regret later?
Local girls are not materialistic. In fact they are very simple
women, who just want to build a simple happy family of their own.
Yes I do enjoy buying designer goods, but I was a faithful caring
woman who knows how to love a man and love his family.
And all that I did I ended up with nothing but pain.
In my early 30s now, I don't even know if I am able to start all
over again.
Why? Anybody knows why?
(Pardon my essay. I just wanna let it out, even if nobody wants
to know).