lost everything after married

last SG · 2013-10-17T17:50:31+00:00

@zulkifli It just often come to my mind when think about it, talk about and when I don’t know how to solve this problem. Mbak, saya ngak gerti dengan situasi...

sgdiehard SG

You are feeling sorry for yourself because you held on to your traditional beliefs from your country.

In Singapore, the wedding is not a big deal, it's only a show newly weds put on for the sake of their parents' " face value".

Wedding dinners are for honoring parents, not so much for the wedded couple.

Most couples in Singapore are already living a married life BEFORE the wedding ceremony.

Of course it's unfair.. TO YOU.... you thought you sold your virginity to a rich guy. Unfortunately, in Singapore, virginity is not worth as much as you think.

It's like a merchant thinking his shiny stone is worth a fortune. But the buyers don't think so because it's just a piece of polished rock !

Your understanding of Singapore is not quite accurate.

Wedding in Singapore is a bigger deal now, it is over $1000 per table, plus photography and ceremony. Parents want an announcement, so nobody would think their daughter is cohabitating with another man, not an honorable thing in conservative Singapore. In wedding dinners today, it is not the parents who go on stage and say thank you to the guests, but the newly wedded couple who go up to thank their parents, brothers and sisters and those who help in the organisation. That is the only part where the parents are honored. Parents would be happy if they get a bouqet of flowers at the dinner.

Singaporean actually waiting for their BTO before they got married, and share the responsibilities in keep the house and decide if they want children. When you said "Most couples in Singapore are already living a married life" you mean they have sex before they got married? There are more to a married life than having sex.

I don't know how Singaporeans view virginity, how much is virginity in Australia? I guest it depends very much on individual, her values or conviction. Not right to make a sweeping statement.

What happened to this IndoGirl can happen to VietGirl or ChinaGirl, in Singapore, in Malaysia, in Australia..... did IndoGirl cry over the loss of virginity?

Demon Bane SG

Your situation demands swift actions....divorce is the only way back to freedom again ! Consult your lawyer immediately ! Something must be done !

Shorter ninja SG

You want to know what love is (no, this is not a song title)?
Just ask yourself if it is just a habit that you can’t leave this person or is He/She the missing puzzle to your life?

speakoutfor SG

Divorce him la. Get half his inheritance. He can't even fulfil the basic responsibility of a husband, he is not around half the time and he can't afford to support you, what damn use is he?

Whatever he spent, he spent on his fatness and on his gambling habits.

Yes you should go back to Indon, but divorce him first, and try to squeeze as much $$$ from him as you can. Go consult a divorce lawyer.

I can't believe there are so many nice guys in singapore struggling to get girls and you have to settle for this idiot?

speakoutfor SG

Your understanding of Singapore is not quite accurate.

I don't know how Singaporeans view virginity, how much is virginity in Australia? I guest it depends very much on individual, her values or conviction. Not right to make a sweeping statement.

What happened to this IndoGirl can happen to VietGirl or ChinaGirl, in Singapore, in Malaysia, in Australia..... did IndoGirl cry over the loss of virginity?

I wanna do away with all this rubbish wedding, it is too damn expensive. All the parasites from the restaurants all the way to the freelance photographers are squeezing cash from us.

If want to openly declare to everybody, go and publish your marriage at the Strait Times la or have a simple buffet at home, invite all close friends and relatives.

I got a friend who work as a QC manager at an electronics company, he does part time wedding photography, the biz was so good that he could afford to quit his job and do full time. He advertises his work through facebook, now it has gone viral. It is so rubbish, to pay these people high wages. For me, i would get one of my close friends who is good at photography to do it at half the price.

Bio-Hawk SG

Divorce him la. Get half his inheritance. He can't even fulfil the basic responsibility of a husband, he is not around half the time and he can't afford to support you, what damn use is he?

Whatever he spent, he spent on his fatness and on his gambling habits.

Yes you should go back to Indon, but divorce him first, and try to squeeze as much $$$ from him as you can. Go consult a divorce lawyer.

I can't believe there are so many nice guys in singapore struggling to get girls and you have to settle for this idiot?

Keep encouraging these gals to get more money. Perfect isn't it?

Summer hill SG

Keep encouraging these gals to get more money. Perfect isn't it?

the problem is rather complicated. rather than finding someone to marry at her country, TS choose to marry blindly into a foriegn country, leaving her friends, family and memories behind just to get someone she barely knows.

The place she came from is unfortuantely a male-driven society. A woman's value is put on her ability to clean, cook, wash...so that they can marry better. And to marry better is marry someone wealthier, and if that someone is wealthier it meant a source of income for the girl.

Hence, the materialism rather than emotional connect to the significant one because she marry someone she barely knows! If you look at her previous post, she kept on thinking that her life is out of her control. She needs someone to save her from being trampled on, betrayed...etc

But I hope TS knows that she is in control of HER LIFE. I advise her to take the money and invest in herself, go to school, get educated and break out of poverty and reliance. Certificates is king in Singapore and TS will need it to find a job.

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