So what should I do? I don't want my friend to suffer
humiliation of rejection. Or should he try and fail? Maybe he will
learn something from this?
So why not? No harm in making a try. 40 years old already, don't
try wait until when?
Marcus Chin tells all about his split from girlfriend 32 years his
junior
Posted: 16 March 2012 1430 hrs
SINGAPORE: 59-year-old Singapore radio host and actor Marcus Chin,
recently confirmed that his girlfriend Eileen Cheah, who is
32 years his
junior, had "temporarily separated" from him six months ago,
because he could not give her a sense of
security.
"I think it (their separation) is because she does not have a sense
of security when she is with me, as I am still not officially
divorced (from his estranged wife of 23 years Murong Ying)," said
Chin, conceding that their age gap could have contributed to their
split.
"While it could be
part of the problem, our age difference isn't
the only problem,
there are a lot of other issues."
Chin went on to deny rumours that Cheah, who now lives apart from
him, had decided to leave him because she was done using him for
his money.
"I have nothing for her to squeeze out. I am not a wealthy man.
Those rumours are exaggerated and unfair to her," said the veteran
radio personality in a telephone interview with channelnewsasia.com
on Friday.
Chin declared that he intends to reconcile with Cheah, with whom he
has a young daughter, and try to save their relationship.
"I am currently working on it, giving her a bit of time. Her
parents are caring for our daughter for now.
"In all things, my family comes first," said Chin.
No
regrets
Chin has gone through some tough times to be with Cheah.
When the news broke that he was dating his then-assistant Cheah
three years ago, the media hounded him for answers, while many
members of the public labelled him a cad for cheating on his wife
with a woman young enough to be their daughter.
He also had to fight a very painful, very public seven-month legal
battle against Murong Ying over maintenance matters last year, and
wound up being
ordered to pay her S$4000 each month.
And now, Cheah is no longer by his side.
Did he regret his decision to be with Cheah?
"I don't regret it at all. There is nothing to regret.
"When it comes to
matters of the heart, if she returns to me, it's good. But if she
doesn't, it can't be helped. I'll let nature take its course. I'll
have to see what happens and deal with it," said Chin with a tinge
of resignation in his voice.
He said he is prepared for either outcome and has been striving to
regain some semblance of normalcy in his life since their
separation.
"I feel fine now,
though I sometimes feel lonely at night and think about her
(Cheah)," said Chin.
"Life goes on. I still have to perform."
When asked if his experiences with Cheah had tainted his views on
love, Chen replied without a hint of hesitation.
"No. I will
continue to seek love," said Chin confidently, his
voice completely devoid of the despair that had been there moments
before.
"Because every
human being needs love."
-CNA/ha
http://www.channelnewsasia.com/stories/entertainment/view/1189364/1/.html
As part of this whole process,
there occurred a
dramatic event of great social significance.
This was the reversal in longevity expectations of
men and women in adult life.
A century ago (to be sure, in a largely rural context),
a twenty-year-old
man could expect to live longer than a twenty-year-old
wife.
In fact, such a man might well bury two or three wives, usually
from the mortality associated with childbirth or other female
problems.
Today, a
twenty-year-old man has little expectation of living as long as a
twenty-year-old woman.
To make matters worse, a twenty-year-old woman a century ago
married a man considerably older than herself, at
least in the middle classes, simply because future preference
required that a man be established economically before he began to
raise a family.
Today, from a series of causes, such
as the extension of the female expectation of life faster than the
male expectation, the increased practice of birth control,
coeducation (which brings the sexes into contact
at the same age), weakening of future preference
and of the middle-class outlook generally, which
leads to
marriages by couples of about the same age,
husbands now generally die before their
wives.
Recognition of this, the increased independence of women,
adaptation to taxes and other legal nuisances, has given rise to joint financial
accounts, to property being put in the wife's name, and to greatly
increased insurance benefits for wives.
Gradually the wealth of the country became female-owned, even if
still largely male-controlled.
But this had subtle results;
it made women
more independent and more outspoken...
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