Let me summarise ok... so you still not ready for new
relationship.
You met this guy , you kinda like him... then you don't like him
because he got ego issue.
Then you bend over backwards for him and you compromise etc
etc.. and you still havn't go out on a date with Jim.
OK.. then here comes the real motive... You need to know
HOW to reject Jim without hurting him. This should
be your SuBject on this thread. Next time just go straight to the
POINT.
Well, here's the problem . Unless you are an excellent LIAR..
it's not likely you can accomplish NOT hurting his feelings when
you reject him. EVERY REJECTION is HURTFUL... get immune to that
idea.
Rule number 1 : MEN are NOT stupid.
Rule number 2 : They are NOT as dumb as you credit them for.
If you truly not want to hurt his feelings.. there is only ONE
method of rejection.
CLAIM YOU ARE A LESBIAN. This is the only ONE rejection men
cannot argue with you about. Nor can they try to persuade you out
of.
Otherwise, you really need to get over this " I don't want him,
but I don't wanna hurt him " bull crap. cus we've all been down
this road before... the road leads to NOwhere.
Just be honest and tell him you are unavailable.. and CUT OFF.
Stop pretending you worry about his feelings..
because you really don't give a shit deep inside.
He will first go through a withdrawal , or he will find himself
another chick. Life is that simple for a guy.
Unless you plan to wear a nanny underwear on the outside
everyday.. it's likely you will need to reject MANY more advances
until the day you get married.. then it will be your husband's turn
to reject other women.
You are good at reading, not bad at analyzing (on your very own
assumption) but not good at giving an insight, into this,
specifically.
