You are just deperate to be "POPULAR".
Being popular is not the same as having true friends.. True
friends can be counted within your 10 fingers... true friends you
only need a few good ones.
Popularity is only to in-validate your inner fear..
perhaps you are worried that you are not a likeable person.... But
when you are invited to big social event , you tell/ validate
yourself " see... people still want me to be there and hangout with
them, so surely I am a likeable person.. right ?" You have inner
doubts, you are using popularity to dispel your inner doubts...
But being popular doesn't fill that void of having no true
friend...popularity is the wrong yardstick to value yourself.
You can be very popular.. and at the same time.. feel
very lonely inside.
True friends are the ones that fulfill part of you. The other
part is yourself.
You have to like yourself first... after that.. everything is
secondary.
I get invited to big parties.. but that's just part of social
life... we exchange names, contact, we net work.. if we have
lohbang.. we call each other.. if we got no mutually beneficial
involvment..we throw their name cards away... it's all very
superficial.
My "social acquaintances" don't get their nose in my personal
life... if I have personal issues... I don't go to them... I go to
my true friends and family... and i keep only a few close ones.
However.. if you just wanna be "popular"... all you need is a
LOT of lohbang for others to take advantage of... so they see the
value of inviting you to their social network... and keeping you
there.....else you simply fade away..
Once you come out to work.. you will understand the value of
net-working.. and why they will rarely be adding on to your small
circle of close friends.
Of cors.. I'm not saying you stop going to social
events... it is very fun.. , exciting and
enjoyable... you should enjoy meeting new people..
but don't count on those events to fullfil that void inside
yourself.
Very judgmental point of view. Seriously, you need a reality
check.