I have a live-in boy friend for more than 2 years. I used to pay
for everything in the household and i owned the apartment. Last
year, i decided to quit my job and take a breather for two years or
so. I will be surviving on my own savings. The issue is that my boy
friend doesn’t contribute to the household other than paying the
utilities bill. I pay for the mortagage loan naturally as it is my
property, i also pay for the groceries, food, cable tv etc. Now
that i am not working, i really hope that he will start
contributing more. Well, i hinted once, he felt “hurt” that i
implied that he was “leeching” on me, which i had never meant that
in anyway. He is the ego type of man. After that incident, he still
does not initiate to contribute more. As i have been cooking at
home at least three times a week, i am actually spending more
because he always likes expensive steamed fish. Recently, i hinted
to him again that eating at home is healthier but it can also be
more expensive. Then he suggested that we go his mom’s pl every sat
for dinner and he will pay her extra for the meal on top of his
monthly $1k allowance. I am very disappointed that he feels
necessary to pay his mom for 1 meal but never thought of
contibuting to our meals! Sometimes, he even makes me pay for his
shopping!
Is it too much to ask him to contribute more and ow not to make
him feel that i am too calculative. But i really need to be careful
with my spending and hope that he can help out.
If he dun paid for his dinner or shopping, you can just walk off,
why bother, those cashier tends to go after guys more than us, if
he cannot paid, let the police handle him, omg, you are pampering
and nurturing a male chauvanist here.
