Why would you flippantly claim him as "a friend" and stay as one
since he's all what you said about him? *haiz*
I remember there was a classmate from years ago who behaved just
the same. When she needed companionship, she came to us - a total
group of 4 girls. When the guy of her dream from another class
walked by, she went swooning for him. Abandoning her group - us -
is a better way to describe it. While with him, she would literally
treat the rest of the group as strangers even though we were
standing at close distance to one another. Strangely enough, none
of us confronted her. We felt hurt indeed but we knew what's
important to her - then - meant a lot to her
pride. So we kept the whole ongoings near our peripheral sight
but distanced ourselves far enough not to get emotionally attached
to her doings.
But..
Despite that haughtiness in her, she's still the girl we first
met: outspoken, quick-tempered and aloof. She's an arrogant person
alright, but we loved her just the same because at that time, our
camaraderie was formed over insecurities, the stigma of being
treated as "outcasts" both in our class (for not being pretty
enough) and outside the class (we were not in the Express stream) -
to which I called it "The Common Life Problems". But in spite of
all this, we pooled the individual strengths that drawn us
together: she - resourceful -, one girl - pragmatic, brave and
hardworking, other girl - studious and sharp; another girl -
streetwise; and me - dreamy and creative.
As time went by, our friendship started to fray by its end.
It's time to take a bow and bow out graciously you have
to. It's inevitable that people change. We developed different
expectations, different needs, with different people involved with
our life.
And I am always grateful for the experience: growing up
together, learning things together. Friendship teaches us valuable
life lesson. Even though these memories belong to the past close to
two decades ago, in these cocoons of past images, the people still
live. They still breathe. They still shine.