I repeat what I have said.
"Let her
go. The more you try, the more will she resent
you."
This problem started on its course a long time ago.
When the child was younger, the parent may impose on the
kid.
As she grows older, she fights back. And the more you
try.......
I do not think the damage is immediately repairable.
Back off and lets things be.
Meanwhile reflect on yourself, what you have done.
Till today, I have hated all my disciplinary masters, dragon
teachers, and others stern teachers. I know they mean well, but
their methods make me dislike them, till today.