Actually we have know each other for 1 yr (we work under the
same project) and together for 6mths. I can't say we don't
totally understand each other just not that deep enough. He
proposed to me that we would tie the knot on next year which make
up to be our 1 yr courtship and i agreed. We even booked our
honeymood and bridal pkg. But suddenly everything changes so fast..
i am lost. During the phase of preparation he seems to be
very happy and enjoying the process. I don't understand.
(As well on last month my mother was hospitalise due to an
car accident and was semi paralyze - likely to recover after
theraphy) I was quite stress out and perhaps shown my flaw
side of stubborn and impatient side of me and he couldn't take
that.
I do not mind going thru the patience to wait for him to
gradually move up to maturity in love. But i need to know how to
deal with him. He is acting like normal nothing happen
infront of everyone. I am hurt this way. the surrounding knew
what is happening. Everyone of his friend told me he is
stubborn and he will think through and come back. But i am
not sure if he will.
How can i help him to come back ? And yet doesn't give him
the stress that i am wanting him back. Coz he told me straight on
my face during broke off, he doesn't want me to wait and he might
not come back. He felt our characters are too stubborn and to
be together will be v tired. But i think he doesn't know to
be together we need to compromise, having the inconvenience of
needing to communicate etc... He mentioned he still love me very
much, infact he tears .. sigh...
Haiz haiz. Foolish pride.
As I said he is a man in his 40s. Don't expect him to romance
you back. He is too old for that kind of thing. He is too tired and
busy for that kind of thing.
If you really love him - you must go back / keep on calling him/
keep on talking to him. No more ignoring him. This won't work. His
heart has been harden from all the years of office politics and
fighting up the career ladder.
How to deal with him? Do not expect him to read you. As simple
as that. You love him - tell him you love him. You want him to do
somehting - tell him. Don't expect him to be a mind reader.
