Need help on what to do when gf is pregnant

last SG · 2012-04-15T14:11:09+00:00

18 is way too young to be a father, especially in Singapore where everything will cost you dearly. If you have the baby, unless you have generous parental su...

HelpMe6890 SG

My and my gf are 18 and still schooling. She thinks that she is pregnant and if she is i dont want to abort it. I really need advise on what to do as i still want to study and at the same time support her all the way. Was thinking of going NS to financially support her while she study. Please help :(

BadzMaro SG

Since you have decided to keep the baby, then the most important thing for you now is to start learning how to be a good father and a parent. You gotta also let the gf's parent know.

18yrs old and preggers while studying is not going to be easy for her and you both. And not just financially, but emotionally as well.

But if you managed to 先成家后立业, by 40 yrs old.. kid will be 22. Thats not too shabby. You can then retire and enjoy life, waiting for grandkids. :P

Rednano SG

@ www.maybebaby.sg

mr music SG

Keep also difficult, Abort also difficult. Be careful next time.

^Acid^ aka s|aO^eH~ SG

The stress and mood swings during pregnancy and anxiety of the father during wife's pregnancy... when coupled with work/studies, it can be extremely taxing...

i wouldn't say both need to have willpower... but more of endurance and discipline...

Life's going to be tough so need the discipline... cannot anyhow spend money... taking care of a baby is costly, factor in diapers, gyne, milkpowder, EQs, and it's an extremely hefty sum...

and why endurance? becoz both have to endure the tempers that both give each other during this period of time...

Not that it's going to kill u, but the road will be tough...

FireIce SG

thinks?

get it confirmed
or confirm it's a false alarm

then visit http://www.babes.org.sg

The Card! 2012 SG

Its not as easy as you think. There are many things you got to consider. The emotional and financial aspects of bringing up the kid. Its worse when you got to do your National Service.

At the same time, I got to praise you for taking responsibility for the child. There are many cases where the guy will run away or ask to abort the baby. It takes courage to think about keeping the baby and supporting the baby and your gf.

βέτά SG

Was thinking of going NS to financially support her while she study.

Where are you from?

Dalforce 1941 SG

Was thinking of going NS to financially support her while she study.

Maybe you should sign on.

mr music SG

the best people to ask are yours and her parents for approval whether to keep the baby. Not us.

angel7030 SG

No problem, why worry, just get marry and thing will settle by itself, one of my old unle got 10kids, last time only an odd job labourer only

If by 40s, child 22 yo can bring back money is ok, by if child still ask for money like me asking from my father, god bless you .

From some of my friends and former classmates who married earlier, by 23yo, most divorced.

βέτά SG

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lgh9XTkQTDI

Summer hill SG

Just want to know, if you choose to keep the baby,

Are you able to give it a good life? Have you planned for his/her university/polytechnic fees? His/her insurance, savings etc? And money to buy diapers, milk?

Hitman Chief (Barium) SG

sign on lah!!$2500/mth i heard in regular forces plus free food!

angel7030 SG

and i heard also got free underwear hor??

Jacky Woo SG

you have to be responsible to your own actions. if you abort the baby, this guilt will torment you till the day you die, same with your gf.

angel7030 SG

In older days, my grandma said she give birth at 16yo, and my grandpa is only 18yo, so what is the big deal of having a baby at 18yo, you read the news, 10yo girl give birth to a baby.

Go to your MP, tell him you are a young father, (singapore govt very happy for you), young mother giving babies are more healthier and strong. Tell him you can serve NS, but also need to care for family, can request for a 9 to 5 job for you in your NS so that you can be with your family and care more for the baby.

What is hardship and suffering, sex that time very happy hor?

Display Name SG

In older days, my grandma said she give birth at 16yo, and my grandpa is only 18yo, so what is the big deal of having a baby at 18yo, you read the news, 10yo girl give birth to a baby.

What is hardship and suffering, sex that time very happy hor?

First time I heard such a constructive comment from you.
Thumbs up.

FunGuyWorkaholic SG

First time I heard such a constructive comment from you.
Thumbs up.

her comments all very constructive one what... you dunno meh?

speakoutfor SG

This story sounds awfully familiar.

Is this a make up story? Too little details. You don't sound like you are in distress.