Think My Wife Is Having Affair

last SG · 2011-11-27T19:22:00+00:00

I am of the opinion there is no ’’solution’’ until self-honesty intuits and is communicated or expressed to each other in spite of the fears or ….Otherwise,...

Susanteo2011 SG

gather evidence 1st
so that when divorce no need pay 50%

priceless advice...............

Darkness_hacker99 SG

priceless advice...............

awesome!!!

troublemaker2005 SG

You diam lah, you no talk will die meh!!!

I think hor, TS also have to answer himself, we only hear from you, not from your wife yet, maybe it could be you are poor in sex or same like troublemakers, cuckoo bird too small or worst dyfunctioned, so we women also have our needs, especially like your wife, these ah sohs after tasted a good one, may find TS one bo lor yong

diam? this one confirm sg ah lian

what has my cuckoo bird anything to do with this topic. no doubt we have to be careful. if the husband skill no good the wife should let him know the problem. so that the husband can coordinate and take it slow to please the wife. just dismissing the husband as not good in bed after get married and have kids already really is not a good excuse to make the husband an infantry man outside you know

Darkness_hacker99 SG

Some times I really like Malaysia's OWC idea

DailyFreeGames.com SG

Dinner is ready.

Darkness_hacker99 SG

More good years ahead

Fcukpap SG

It must be hurting when you have strong grounds to suspect your wife having an affair with another man, especially when the logical flow of events reinforces the notion of cheating. There are many ways to know if she is having an affair, however, somehow that is still not my primary concern. Be prepared when you decide to pursuit what you probably felt as 'the truth' behind the scene' because what I am concerned about is the aftermath.

What will happen after you corroborates your suspicion with facts?

Structurally, the relationship has all factors pointing towards some dire breakdown; nonexistent communication and apt towards an individualistic lifestyle. In fact, the start of the marriage was somewhat 'coerced' - with greater consideration towards the unborn child before marriage.

You may be ready psychologically and emotionally for your marriage, but this remains a question for her. And albeit she may be ready for the marriage, she might not be ready to be a mother and lead a family-centric life.

Agreeing to be married does not answer this question; just like pregnancy does not automatic make mothers out of women.

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You are entitled to know the truth that veils behind her seemingly 'busy' lifestyle - but before you go about confronting her and ask honestly (or hire a PI); you might want to assume the worst scenario (which is yes she is cheating on you) and reflect on why this marriage has gone wayward because it would help you to craft out the content to engage a HTHT with her to see if this marriage is still salvageable.

P.S: A perfectly satisfied woman cannot be seduced; surely there is some unmet needs that is being fulfilled by the other guy. Knowing/confirming that she is seeing/being close (physically or emotionally) to another guy does not provide you the insights of what went wrong with your marriage.

You know that you have not been talking; make that happen and see how it goes.

Cheers

as well as unmet needs of many hubbies that ran amok?

alize SG

My advise is whatever you do, whether you talk it out or not, hold the moral high ground so she has less claim from you in court.

If you can prove her infidelity you pay nothing, but if she can prove yours it's another matter. And you know Singapore only awards the money one way.

Fcukpap SG

but the benefit of doubt always goes to women first....which is an act of discrimination...men must always hold the burden of proof

Darkness_hacker99 SG

what makes women having advantage in court is that a women can claim hubby's inability to satisfy her needs. Hope TS gets a male judge

Veggie Bao SG

Yeah well.....the male colleague again fetching your wife to the airport........is not right man........that is too routine and is too suspicious already.....that is not normal....

I dont know what other advice I can suggest to you....but from what you described I think if I were you I would suspect something is wrong too.

Just from the enthusiastic driving and fetching, is not natural and is fishy....

Maybe you should indeed engage a PI.

First try to talk to her first and prod gently. See whats the result of that.

Actually she shouldnt be ignoring you when you talk to her.......next time if she ignores you again, raise your voice a little bit and go closer to her. Otherwise she wouldnt realize and wouldnt notice anything, and take you for granted. You have to do something to change her.

Actually this is something you have to decide yourself too. If you yourself cannot change, still be passive and accepting, then you cant totally blame your wife, can you ? Because you are giving the feedback that it is acceptable. So you need to decide what you want to do to save your marriage.

lce SG

its no longer the marriage, its the child involved

jojobeach SG

This marriage is done. Kaput, finished.

No love within, just an empty shell.

A show, facade - just to make sure the daughter is legit, not have to face a life of embarrassment in Asia, as a child born out of wedlock.

This union of TS and that woman is only a piece of paper with signature on it.

Bonded by obligations , absent essence of love.

A child from divorce is better than a child out of wedlock , so the asian society dictates. TS has done the right thing, the responsible thing for the daughter.

His wife probably don't give a shit if/or not she remained in this marriage. TS knows this, hence his reluctance to confront his own wife.

Her love is no more. TS still love his wife or his daughter more ?

It is understandable why you dare not rock the boat . Your child is too young. The last thing you want is to have your precious princess call someone else "daddy".

So just wait it out.

jojobeach SG

Yunhaier, I respectfully disagree your statement "A perfectly satisfied woman cannot be seduced".

Unlike men, women do not go into extra marital affairs to satisfy egoistical needs.

So Yun is right.

jojobeach SG

Dinner is ready.

Good. Now go feed the kids, get them to finish their homeworks and put them to bed you lazy slut .

angel7030 SG

TS can alway call or PM me, I can drive my BM or my Dad merc (if he go japan) to fetch you everyday , then we can also go oversea holidays, meet up every weekend, can also bring your child along, I call my maid to come along to take care of her. TS just paid for the trips, accomodation and foods, I do not mind the time, I just want TS wife to wake up.

So, if wife can get a guy fetching her here and there, TS also can get a chio gal like me fetching him here and there, so what if TS wife can go business trip to penang, TS can also bring me to HK or japan, I guarantee TS that within a month of doing what your wife is doing, you wife will be desparately be the first to want to talk to you and maybe she even get a PI before you do.

I alway call this reverse pychology

Darkness_hacker99 SG

Your plan not very good ;) it may cause TS problem like requiring to pay 50% when caught going with you (and your maid).

angel7030 SG

Provided TS dun touch me or sleep with me, there is no way TS is going to pay the 50%, I can act as his god sister, and be witness to it, do you think his wife bf dare to stand as witness?

jojobeach SG

I alway call this reverse pychology

This kind of competition only works if the wife gives a shit to TS lah.

She already boh chap him when he talk to her already... you think she cares meh ?

TS treated her for granted.. she also take him for granted lor.

When was the last time you go to Airport ? You got see the whole family uncle auntie, grandpa grandma go send off a family member ? Go work one week only..that one is family love...

TS don't even bother to bring daughter send mommy off or welcome her at airport.. something is very wrong liao lah...

When was the last time TS date his wife out or meet her for dinner after work ? Probably never .....

lce SG

alamak a woman with all the answers

"Assumption is the mother of all failures"

u must be tat mother of assumption

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