Think My Wife Is Having Affair

last SG · 2011-11-27T19:22:00+00:00

I am of the opinion there is no ’’solution’’ until self-honesty intuits and is communicated or expressed to each other in spite of the fears or ….Otherwise,...

angel7030 SG

TS should find a good day to sit down with his wife and have a good talk over a cup of Milo dinosaur or otherwise. Adult problem end up only children suffer hor, both can find their own lover, but children are left to cry and ponder.

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黑吃黑, black eats black

Since your wife gives you the 1st of the month, you give her the 15th of the lunar month, you get yourself a lover, see how she feels, if you cannot get a lover, can alway contact me, I can act as your lover**, see how is your wife reaction, if she is feel hurt, then she is eat her own mistakes, if she feel like nothing happen, then confirm.com.sg go to court and get a divorce lawyer before thing sway for too long.

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charlize SG

Why life and love so complicated?

Why?

angel7030 SG

Why? Same as PAP, PAP said they Love the citizens of Singapore, but why singaporean, except the rich and famous, suffered under them?

Life is actually very simple, born, live, surf sg forum, old, sick and die, but humans make it difficult

troublemaker2005 SG

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silly girl like you really no brain - that's why i say need an old uncle like me to marry and guide you along. tell that guy to get a PI first. with evidence that the wife is itchy and made him an infantry man, with evidence go court maybe if the DNA test also found the dotter not hers he cuckoo-ed, then no need to pay her all the what wifey fees this and that and no need to take care of someone else bastard's sons or dotters.

see the wife true colors. if it is not true that she having affair just some colleague guys hitting hard on her then its itme for the truth to light and the husband go on offensive. the evidence can take that colleague to court - knowing people got husband still wnat to makan - no need angel's girls, my thugs can help you handle also. i summon them from oblivion or skyrim

Veggie Bao SG

Other than the matter about how to prod and ask her........I believe you need to re-evaluate your marriage too.......

Maybe you need to spend more time with her.

Try to go for family outing on weekends......and sometimes just the 2 of you (minus the daughter)

This one is your medium / long term plan.

Because you cant just be passive....if she doesnt like to talk to you....and spend much more time socializing outside....then the imbalance has happened and she would feel bored and unfulfilled.

Medicated Oil SG

Last time. mum slapped daughter.

Now, daughter slapped mum.

Last time, man eat outside.

Now, both eat outside.

Unless you have some proof, you cannot file for divorce.

So, you have to live with it and find another gf at the same time.

DailyFreeGames.com SG

You need to think really carefully about hiring PI... because if she is innocent, and she found out about what you have done... it becomes 100% your fault...

jojobeach SG

PI PI. All never think properly. Cannot see past your fingers.

So what if PI cannot find evidence she is sleeping with another man ?

What if the allegations are all false ?

That woman's lifestyle is not conducive for a marriage.

Can TS really live like this for the long term ?

They have a child, a child needs BOTH parents.

Both need to sit down and have a honest talk.

Marriage is about adjusting and adapting for the family.

There is no "I" only "WE".

lce SG

PI PI. All never think properly. Cannot see past your fingers.

So what if PI cannot find evidence she is sleeping with another man ?

What if the allegations are all false ?

That woman's lifestyle is not conducive for a marriage.

Can TS really live like this for the long term ?

They have a child, a child needs BOTH parents.

Both need to sit down and have a honest talk.

Marriage is about adjusting and adapting for the family.

There is no "I" only "WE".

sometimes i wonder whether women are borned with a brain and wen was the last time u were honest on yr past relations?

jojobeach SG

sometimes i wonder whether women are borned with a brain and wen was the last time u were honest on yr past relations?

You don't have to wonder. Just go ask your mother.

Go do a google search. You will see that men lie twice as often as women.

You are projecting your own weakness onto another person in a different gender.

We are not like you.

DailyFreeGames.com SG

sometimes i wonder whether women are borned with a brain and wen was the last time u were honest on yr past relations?

Don't blame all the women in the world just because jojobeach is a bad apple lah... but i cannot say bad things about jojobeach because she banged me and i am pregnant with her kid now so wo shi tar der ren ler, jia zu shui zu jia jojobeach shui jojobeach...

jojobeach SG

thats right bitch, I banged you with a green banana.

Now you be a good bitch, STFU and go cook dinner.

benqepson SG

so how ? Confirm or not the affair?

angel7030 SG

so how ? Confirm or not the affair?

wait, could be an internal affair

angel7030 SG

thats right bitch, I banged you with a green banana.

Now you be a good bitch, STFU and go cook dinner.

No wonder recently, I cannot find a green banana, all sold out.

Hope my bangkok trip can find one

angel7030 SG

You diam lah, you no talk will die meh!!!

I think hor, TS also have to answer himself, we only hear from you, not from your wife yet, maybe it could be you are poor in sex or same like troublemakers, cuckoo bird too small or worst dyfunctioned, so we women also have our needs, especially like your wife, these ah sohs after tasted a good one, may find TS one bo lor yong

Jlsky70 SG

My wife had left for Penang yesterday. That male colleague of hers came to drive her to the airport. I’m not sure whether he went along. She will be there till Friday.

I haven’t got the opportunity to talk to her. I tried on Monday night, but she wasn’t paying any attention to my questions as she was busy texting on her handphone.

Nowadays , we hardly have much time to talk properly. She comes home late every night saying that she needs to work overtime. On weekends, she also goes out the whole day after breakfast at home and comes home around 9-10pm. She said her work is very stressful and she needs to go out to chill out and relax a bit. But what about me? I don’t need to relax? How about our daughter? Where is her mommy?

Last month, during the Deepavali period, she went to Taiwan for holidays from 22/10/11 to 28/10/11. She claimed that she went with “friends”. Until now I haven’t seen her holiday photos. She said that photos were taken using her friends’ camera!! She carries IPhone and brought a Nikon digital SLR there!!

It never crossed my mind to have DNA test to check whether I’m the biological father of my daughter. I never doubted because I believed that I was the only men in her life. We were together for 3 years before we got married and she was 3 month pregnant when we went to ROM to register our marriage and 5 months pregnant during Chinese wedding dinner. I love my daughter very much, and I have no intention to go for DNA test.

I’m feeling very miserable now thinking that she might be with that guy in Penang now. I’m worried about hiring PI too. What if it turns out that she is not having any affair at all? She’ll be very angry to find out I hire a PI to spy on her right? That will make matter worse right?

Fugazzi SG

U have a choice to ask her and if she persists in her evasiveness hire a PI and that mite resolve yuur suspicions and settle this emotional morass that you seem to be wallowing in. PI are very professional and they would not divulge nor disclose to anyone except to u.

As for your daughter, u are being wise. hopefully u love her out of love lah, not neediness, not that she gives u meaning. Being self-honest does make a differnce to one’s daily living.

Some idiots here are so dense, that they are askijng u to for DNA test. Neurosis cannot get better than this.

PS – Intuitively it does feel that your spouse has chosen to remain incommunicado over some sensitive n possibnly explosive issues.

Yunhaier SG

I'm a married man with a 3 years old daughter.

I suspect that my wife is having an affair with a colleague of hers.

I realized that since several months ago, she has been spending a lot of time with her male colleague. He sends her to work and send her home from work everyday. She comes home late every night and claims that she needs to work overtime. She also goes out and only comes home late at nights or early mornings on weekends.

She spends little time at home and we seldom have time to talk. Her work also requires her to travel overseas frequently and i know that on many trips, she went with that colleague.

I'm at lost now and not sure what to do. Can someone give me some opinion or advice.

It must be hurting when you have strong grounds to suspect your wife having an affair with another man, especially when the logical flow of events reinforces the notion of cheating. There are many ways to know if she is having an affair, however, somehow that is still not my primary concern. Be prepared when you decide to pursuit what you probably felt as 'the truth' behind the scene' because what I am concerned about is the aftermath.

What will happen after you corroborates your suspicion with facts?

Structurally, the relationship has all factors pointing towards some dire breakdown; nonexistent communication and apt towards an individualistic lifestyle. In fact, the start of the marriage was somewhat 'coerced' - with greater consideration towards the unborn child before marriage.

You may be ready psychologically and emotionally for your marriage, but this remains a question for her. And albeit she may be ready for the marriage, she might not be ready to be a mother and lead a family-centric life.

Agreeing to be married does not answer this question; just like pregnancy does not automatic make mothers out of women.

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You are entitled to know the truth that veils behind her seemingly 'busy' lifestyle - but before you go about confronting her and ask honestly (or hire a PI); you might want to assume the worst scenario (which is yes she is cheating on you) and reflect on why this marriage has gone wayward because it would help you to craft out the content to engage a HTHT with her to see if this marriage is still salvageable.

P.S: A perfectly satisfied woman cannot be seduced; surely there is some unmet needs that is being fulfilled by the other guy. Knowing/confirming that she is seeing/being close (physically or emotionally) to another guy does not provide you the insights of what went wrong with your marriage.

You know that you have not been talking; make that happen and see how it goes.

Cheers

Darkness_hacker99 SG

Yunhaier, I respectfully disagree your statement "A perfectly satisfied woman cannot be seduced".

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