i'm not so sure what make you think that i had neglected her and
resented her in the past. It's not only this year that i tried to
do my part to keep this marriage.
Our 1st 2 years of marriage was wonderfull. We brought up our
daugther together. We both played our parts as parents to take care
of our daugther. She took 1 year off from work after the birth of
our daughter. I woke up at nights to feed our baby.The 1st year was
tough but it was also fun and rewarding. As my parents helps to
take care of our daughter, we still have quite a lot of time to
ourselves. During our 2nd year of marriage, which was last year, we
managed to go for tour together, just the 2 of us, 3 times
alltogether, to Japan, Hawaii and Australia. We had great times. I
don't earn much, but last year i still got her a LV bag for our
anniversary and a Tag Huer watch for her birthday. This year Prada
bag for her birthday and Jimmy Choo shoe for our anniversary.
Last year we went for movies together at least 8-9 times, strolling
on the beach together many times and attended Zouk Out and Xmas
parties together.
Things started to changed gradually when she started work with
this new company early this year. At first she even brought me to
attend her company functions or outings. That's how i get to know
many of her colleagues including that guy who i now suspect is
having affair with her now. For the last few months, things got
increasingly worse. She comes home later and later and spends more
and more weekends not at home. Now she doesn't want to go out with
me even when i asked her.
Something is missing your marriage that is making this guy more
attractive than you.
Where there some unresolved issues ?
Problems in your marriage? Financial, in-laws, bad habits you
have disregarded/dismissed even after her repeated naggings ?
She's not content about something in the marriage...do you know
what it is ?
If you do, you need to address it honestly.
You can chase her down, seduce her with all your might..but
In your wife's head..she will be asking " So what if I come back
to my husband.. what's going to be different ? Will he change for
the better ? " , " Why would I want to give up what I have now with
this new guy, just to go back to something that's been crappy
anyway ?".
You need to give her a good reason to come back.
