Hi Reruny,
So sorry that you are going through an unhappy moment of your
life.
I dont quite understand your situation and if you care to
elaborate... I would like to understand a few things:
1) You are not on good term with your brothers in law?
2) Your wife is only having mild dementia and she is still
normal otherwise?
3) She is unhappy with you in some ways.. so much so that she
agree to apply of a PPO?
4) Is it true that you have been fierce to her before? Perhaps
even lay hands on her? Or abuse her verbally?
5) You do not like this SOKA thingy at all or are you from there
before too? I ask this because you said you suggested your wife to
"join the brothers"..
6) You are retired at quite a young age, do you consider
yourself a rich man?
7) Your bros-in-law do not speak English, are they of the same
social standard as you? I am also confused about this part...I was
under the impression that people from the insurance industry should
at least speak some English..
Furthermore, I do not know if you mean it the way I read it, I
hope you can clarify:
8) You explained that they accused you of being fierce.. and you
follow up to say that you have been married for 30 years with 2
graduate children and retired. Bing married for 30 years or having
2 kids or being retired at 50s does not equate to any answer as to
whether you are actually fierce to your wife or not. Care to
elaborate?
9) Your kids are old enough and are graduates, dont they have
better ideas rather than just cry? Did you try asking them to do
something? Perhaps talk to the mom? Or the mom does not even want
to see them now?
10) Do you think that by not letting your wife work, you are
doing a great thing for her? Or do you think that you are
already very good to her since you are able to let her stop work?
Do you expect anything in return for the things you have done?
11) If your answer to qtn number 2 above is that your wife is
having very serious dementia, then I would like to ask if she can
recognise you still? Because if she has problem remembering who you
are and you guys are still "active in private", that may be a huge
problem.
12) You mentioned that your marriage is normal, but you also
continue to say that you guys went through 30 years of trial and
tribulation "and still enjoy it now".. Do you mean that you guys
are still going through "trails and tribulation" ?
13) Finally, if the brothers are bad people, then may I ask how
is the relationships of your wife with them all along since younger
days?
Sorry if I have too many qtns..
Hermit