MY WIFE

Reruny SG

I am not harassing my wife.

But she have to know that she has got appointments to attend to.

Now that all these things are caused by her brothers, things will never be the same even if she returns home.

My children are getting angry with her as well.

I just want to avoid many more unpleasant episodes.

jojobeach SG

I am not harassing my wife.

But she have to know that she has got appointments to attend to.

Now that all these things are caused by her brothers, things will never be the same even if she returns home.

My children are getting angry with her as well.

I just want to avoid many more unpleasant episodes.

She only stayed away since Sept 24.. not long enough for you to throw such a major fit.

Yet you called upon the security forces to extract her on 24th and 25th ? That's HARASSMENT.

No wonder she thinks you are crazy and is now fearful of her own safety.

Look yourself in the mirror.. YOU are the problem.

FYI : PPO can be issued to someone who don't speak English ok. Most officers are bilinguals.

I suggest you also go for some kind of psychological checkup.

Reruny SG

She is not capable ot such thoughts and action.

I have told the brothers nicely to bring her back. But they refused and shouted at me, daring me to take action against them.

I am just trying to stop her from breaking up the family.

I just want to talk to her.

If she has decided on the PPO, which I know is instigated, can I as a husband still stand around and do nothing.

I really cannot understand where are you coming from with such remarks.

mancha SG

There is no domestic dispute with my wife. She had chosen to stay away from our family is tantamount to a breakup. Was she led on ? No mother would want to allow her brother to break up her family.

If they are not afraid,why are they avoiding me. Do not let my wife to talk to me.

She was not prepared for this. She did not bring any clothes with her.

Now she issue a PPO on me. All because of me disallowing her to stay away?

Is this the way to solve problems ? Very shallow mentality.

Regardless of your feelings, the police will classify this as a domestic dispute. You can scream all your arguments and pull you hair out, a for the police it is domestic dispute.

For a very shallow mentality, you have generated quite a tsunami by your breaking up the family, and avoiding you and other accusations. You want justification for your actions, and condemnation of SOKA from us.

I suggest you calm down, go talk to the SOKA people. Please talk calmly with the view of coming to a solution, not to having your own way.

You wife may want a break.

alize SG

To legally change the PPO situation, you must either get her to retract the PPO or prove she is a mentally disordered person. Then her brothers will be in trouble for any will or PPO that she signs.

I don't think they are using SOKA as a front, I think they are using their activities to make her happy and unwilling to leave since she has dementia. Emotions are more influential than logic on her.

Is there a legal way to lead a rescue mission, spring her from her brother's home and ask her to say she is now willingly staying with you?

I haven't heard of such a situation, only heard stories of relatives shutting out immediate family members when a person is on his deathbed, only letting them in when they have "converted" the person to another religion just before he died. Maybe after signing a will too.

Hope it works out for you.

jojobeach SG

When things go wrong for a fool, he becomes angry and more damage is done.

Bio-Hawk SG

My wife has been "detained" by her 2 brothers since Saturday 24 Sept.

They had brought her for SOKA chantting sessions at Tampines. But had decided not to bring her home thereafter. They had decided to let her continue chantting at his house in Hougang Ave 8

I have asked for police assistance on 2 occasions on Saturday 24 and Sunday 25. But the police would only say that she had told them that she had wanted to stay on.

They did not allow me or any members of my family to talk to her.

Now the brothers had brought my wife to issue a PPO on me for violence on a certain day and time. But it is not true. I really cannot understand how she can swear on oath to the judge for the said violence when her NRIC is still at home.

The brothers are just trying to break up my family. Is this such a SOKA behaviour. It seems like they are trying to get us divorced and then perhaps enjoy the gains from my wife.

My wife has early dementia symptons. Are they trying to take advantage of the situation.

Please help me.

I understand the other brother is an insurance agent from AVIRA in River Valley. which is perhaps why he is initiating all these

I have tried to seek help from all various channels but no avail.

They feel that I have been "fierce" to my wife. Such excuse is an intrusion into my personal life. We are in our 50s and have been married for more than 30 years with 2 graduate children. We are retired.

You should have been fierce to ur wife.Now pay for being a sissie and not man enough.

Reruny SG

Thank You Alize for your advice. I hope that all will end well too.

Thank you to all for writing and listening to my problem.

Yes we have all sorts of weird people here, who just shoot without reading or thinking.

They are just exhibiting a behaviour similar to my wife's brothers.

likeyou SG

Something not right on TS.

If not, your wife and bro in law will not act like this.

What really happen to you?

[imdestinyz] SG

I believe this is a extention from a domestic issue or dispute... what we have now here are the one sided facts from TS which may or may not be true or will probably only be the partial truth.

TS, since we only get the partial truth from you, i believe we can only offer you advise based on what you said which may not eventually help u. I believe you should clarify Hermit's question as i feel that it does make sense.

Since we do not have the full facts yet, i believe we shld not word lash TS first and blame him for everything that had happened since we do not have any prove of who's right and who's wrong. Probably we shld stay objective on this issue if we wld sincerely like to help TS.

Aneslayer SG

Ommissions are not lies... Too much gaps to conclude anything. Anyways its your family affair, outsiders can't help. If you like them to help, please open up. (Not advisable in internet)

jojobeach SG

Thank You Alize for your advice. I hope that all will end well too.

Thank you to all for writing and listening to my problem.

Yes we have all sorts of weird people here, who just shoot without reading or thinking.

They are just exhibiting a behaviour similar to my wife's brothers.

You can capture her , but she will escape again... unless you put her in chains and house arrest. That's no way to treat your love one.

The fool in you is a steadfast one.

mancha SG

Thank You Alize for your advice. I hope that all will end well too.

Thank you to all for writing and listening to my problem.

Yes we have all sorts of weird people here, who just shoot without reading or thinking.

They are just exhibiting a behaviour similar to my wife's brothers.

Your wife's brothers get their feed back from your wife, their sister.

As I suspected what you wanted here is someone to agree to your side of the story.

Its all about you.

Time you consider in terms of the other person, i.e. your wife.

likeyou SG

When everybody are against you (thread starter), your bil, your wife, etc....it says something not right on you.

Did you beat your wife daily?

Fugazzi SG

Right or wrong is always subjective n situational/cirumstantial. most of all what is expected of the other is usually the cause of such emotional turmoil and chaos. It is so very easy to lambast anyone without being in her/his shoes and worse still not bring privy to events or … that culminated in these state of affairs.
Self-honesty is the only panacea and it presupposes that one is willing to face up to one’s ….

Otherwise, one can post here, run to a friend or even seek recourse legally – nothing doing.

FireIce SG

清官难断家务事

Reruny SG

I have do not and have never lay hands on my wife. No harassment. I am not looking for comfort here. But I just need some advice to what I can do about those brothers acting in this way.

As I have said. My wife is suffering from dementia. All I want to do is to take her back or talk to her. But they are not allowing my wife to talk to me. I know my wife will want to talk to me.

I find that the people here are rather bias in their views. Seems like they are all females looking to find loopholes in my e mail.

Due to her dementia,I never let my wife do housework. Yes, I wash, clean up the house, do the laundry, wash, clean up the toilets and the kitchen after every meal. Sweep the house, up & downstairs. She just only prepare simple dish and watch TV. I also prepare breakfast for her.

Now you would come around and say that I am a perfectionist.

If you have nothing to contribute, I hope you can just keep it to yourself.

This is AUNT AGONY is really a turn off. Please change your forum name.

Hello Kitty SG

u will hv betta luck with SOS @ 1800 221 4444.

the ppl here hv had beri serious family & childhood issues so they hab beri skewed opinions.

Fugazzi SG

TS,
Go to Family Mediation Cente if there is no other way for u left and they may help u.

lce SG

I have do not and have never lay hands on my wife. No harassment. I am not looking for comfort here. But I just need some advice to what I can do about those brothers acting in this way.

As I have said. My wife is suffering from dementia. All I want to do is to take her back or talk to her. But they are not allowing my wife to talk to me. I know my wife will want to talk to me.

I find that the people here are rather bias in their views. Seems like they are all females looking to find loopholes in my e mail.

Now you would come around and say that I am a perfectionist.

If you have nothing to contribute, I hope you can just keep it to yourself.

This is AUNT AGONY is really a turn off. Please change your forum name.

perhaps u complain too much

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