Dilemma :(

last SG · 2011-06-10T01:41:39+00:00

No worries , i've known of this couple , where the guy is younger than the woman by 10 years , they're still a very sweet couple =D . I agree with Huishan ,...

vanee SG

I am a 24 year old girl. I am much of a introvert kinda person. I do have many friends, but I am very much reserved, like the quiet one in a group.

When, I was 21, I had dated a guy who was a year older than me. We were dating for about 2 years and then recently, he out od a sudden, jus ditched me. I was very very shattered, cos I had made up my mind about him as the ONE for me. Oh well, I guess some things happen for a reason.

And jus a few months after this break-up, I had another guy showing interest in me. This guy, however is 32 years old. And, he sounds dead serious about me. Am afraid that I am falling for him. But, am holding back alot, cos there are a two reasons. Firstly, I am afraid that he might also hurt me. Being a soft natured person, I don't think that I would be able to handle another break-up. Secondly, I am not sure if the age gap between me and him is acceptable. I prefer an older guy as I assume they might take care of their girl well and can be able to understand us cos they are much more matured. More like be able to guide us.But, an age gap of 8 years, is it okie?

Haiz.. I need some help.. Should I trust this guy? He is saying that he wants to marry me, he would take care of me.. He is very honest about himself, told me the truth about his past and all. Am kind of impressed cos I think it takes a true man to admit all his mistakes..

Hmm, so what do people out there think?

angel7030 SG

Oh, you sound like me, but i never like older men, full of trick and cunning as usual.

Why not you let go relationship and do an upgrading by going for your master or PhD, then you may join a political party and hopefully get voted into the parliament, wouldn't that be better for you.

FireIce SG

u going to let us decide ur future for u?

elindra SG

Nothing wrong with a 8 year age gap

I've known relationships that work and it's the girl that is older.

angel7030 SG

老牛吃嫩草, very common lah. however this type of relationship seldom last long, no sooner the old cow become old and the young wife will start looking for younger men.

DailyFreeGames.com SG

last time my gf was 8 years older than me, we got along fine. my philosophy is once i make a decision, good or bad, i won't regret it. i will learn from the lesson and move forward. got 1 time i could have gone bankrupt, my business failed and at same time my friends cheated alot of my money... but took that as a lesson and got right back within 3 years, no regrets because i'm much wiser now and alot of things also better now...

jojobeach SG

I am a 24 year old girl. I am much of a introvert kinda person. I do have many friends, but I am very much reserved, like the quiet one in a group.

Hmm, so what do people out there think?

Age is a number.. and it's also not a good guage of maturity. You have to get to know him.. to see if his maturity level is a good match for you.

Age does not determine probablity of a guy hurting a girl. It's all in his character.

Also, we all go through life phases... where are you vs where is he ?

A guy his age.. may be ready to settle down..but will you be in the short term ?

While he may be ready for a serious relationship.. are you ready ?

He may have gone through several more relationships than you.. are you sure you have done enough sampling of what's out there ?

While he may be more experienced , he may also come with more baggages.... do you have the maturity level to handle em ?

I do agree that it's more fulfilling to date older guys..because of what they can offer, but 8 years is not a huge difference.

angel7030 SG

For old uncles, what is there good to look at, all faces oily oily with pot holes here and there, and most either rusty hair or gone bald with different shape, from MRT track to san mao er type..haiz.

If you can withstand relatives or frens gossip, then go ahead, but if you frens married those 25 or 26yo guys, they may laugh at your old husband...no power

jojobeach SG

If you can withstand relatives or frens gossip, then go ahead, but if you frens married those 25 or 26yo guys, they may laugh at your old husband...no power

32 yo is not uncle lah. 8 years is not a big age gap.

In fact, I have a few friends who married older guys ranging from 9-18 years age difference... so far.. they are happier than when they dating guys around their age.

Girls mature faster than guys.. so having a guy older is actually more preferable lah. IMO.

angel7030 SG

Aiya sista, guys are like buffet, it for you to pick and choose, each gal got each preferences, if you like older ones go ahead, no bad, especially if u manage a rich old one who had one leg on the coffin already, then you will be rich soon. Just like some gals, take on older guys as an investment with good ROI.

On the other hand, gals like me like younger guys, those blur blur virgin looking type, new birdie in town and gong gong type with gal one, like this than I can control over him. Why go let a mature gal get control and listen to a mature men, most men, if not properly nurture and care by wifeys, they will mature as wolves and crooks.

Anyway, there is a wide spread buffet of men to suit each gal liking. But once you choosed one of them, make sure you get the correct one, dun go eat buffet blindly, you need to pay the penalty for not consuming. So if the took the wrong guy, too bad. Blame no one, however, you can still pay the penalty, then get out of the relationship.

There are many other things in life to care for, dunno why some stupid gals keep thinking of love and love only...haiz

jojobeach SG

There are many other things in life to care for, dunno why some stupid gals keep thinking of love and love only...haiz

Hor sista.. you know hor.. in the west ah.. women who like younger guys are "Cougars".

Even got a tv series named "Cougar town". I think you'd like it. Check it out ya.

angel7030 SG

Aiya sista, cougars are those mid age women going after young guys, I am young ok, more like a panther or little red riding hood with lots of wolves waiting. In the east, we are label as 新花草, understand.

Disman SG

princess

jojobeach SG

You are young.. n you date younger guys.. they legal age already or not ?

Don't forget to give them ang bao after you help "educate" them ok ? Good.

angel7030 SG

yalar yalar, me alway listen to sista like you only. Give ang bao??? Give them a big Bak Bao maybe lah.

DRC SG

To TS

Once hurt does not mean forever must keep away.

Let me tell you a sad story ( not me hor ;0 )

A guy once like a gal but got no guts to go after her. He finally pick up the courage to buy a present for her. He places the present on her table and hides.

She comes along and saw the present, and ask around if anyone knows who is that person that left the present on her table. No one admits.

She threw the present away and the guy was totally heartbroken. He sworn never to fall in love again and was all alone till he die.

Moral of the story: If you never gave love another chance, you will never know the great love can be.

There is no such thing that the boy or girl is the one only in your life or he or she is the must have.

mancha SG

Most of the troubles like this one is self limitation.

The one that comes along must be THE ONE to marry.

It would be better if the youngsters could say Tom is ok, but wish he were more dynamic and ambitious, Dick can do, but have the awful habit of calling his mother for everything, Harry is great, but he is too full of himself.

They need to date a wider range of people, instead of just THE ONE.

How would they choose a car, a TV set, a PSP? They buy the first one they see? They marry the only boy/girl they know?

ShrodingersCat SG

1. Older guy doesn't mean wiser, more matured, less shallow.

2. Having said that - nothing wrong with a 8 year age gap IF the guy is sensible, matured, and sincere.

3. Having said that - there's no guarantee for a long lasting commitment, not even marriage.

4. Having said that - some things are worth the risk. Is finding true love worth risking another broken heart for you?

5. Lastly, don't step into a relationship because of what that guy SAYS to you. Go into it knowing how you feel for him youself.

angel7030 SG

Older guy are more stable, rich and easy going, so they are more easy to chop.

Younger guy are poor, full of anger and not easy to handle, so abit diffcult to chop, but got real love in it.

So, if you want something of a guy other than just love, choose an old man

But if you really want purely love and an exciting one, choose a young guy

xiaogougou SG

Older guy are more stable, rich and easy going, so they are more easy to chop.

Younger guy are poor, full of anger and not easy to handle, so abit diffcult to chop, but got real love in it.

So, if you want something of a guy other than just love, choose an old man

But if you really want purely love and an exciting one, choose a young guy

Hey angel, I am reading your comments here and they seriously leave a distaste in my mouth.

You are not giving TS any constructive comments you know? Rather you are adding oil to the flame.

There are enough bad girls in Spore already. If you are not helping with the situation fine, dont make things worse than it already is.

If you are materialistic yourself, fine, nothing wrong, but keep it to yourself lah.. Why you want to go and influence others? What do you gain from making others as materialistic as you?

What TS is asking for are comments whether should she embark on a new relationship and whether their age gap is a problem. This is what her dilemma is about. Instead of answering TS' queries, you go on this charade of old guys have money, young guys have no money. WTH loh.

You might as well register marriage with money loh. I think you need a serious wake up call that a Rich man DOES NOT equate a Dependable man ok.