Dilemma :(

likeyou SG

TS, give yourself a 2nd chance. He might be sincere to you. But....BUT....if his intent is to have sex with you...after a couple of times going out with you....then you should know what is the relationship with that older guy.

angel7030 SG

Hey angel, I am reading your comments here and they seriously leave a distaste in my mouth.

You are not giving TS any constructive comments you know? Rather you are adding oil to the flame.

There are enough bad girls in Spore already. If you are not helping with the situation fine, dont make things worse than it already is.

If you are materialistic yourself, fine, nothing wrong, but keep it to yourself lah.. Why you want to go and influence others? What do you gain from making others as materialistic as you?

What TS is asking for are comments whether should she embark on a new relationship and whether their age gap is a problem. This is what her dilemma is about. Instead of answering TS' queries, you go on this charade of old guys have money, young guys have no money. WTH loh.

You might as well register marriage with money loh. I think you need a serious wake up call that a Rich man DOES NOT equate a Dependable man ok.

woei, ah xiao, i am just giving my true experiences as a gal, it is still up to TS to digest and take it, even our govt today also can accept and listen to comment for options.

Evey bad gal of singapore behind lies a few bad sg guys. All Bad sg gal also have father, and what is the father doing?

fsDouglasLee SG

Everyone is afraid of being getting hurt again, no matter how old they are.
Even at my age, yes, I’m still afraid of getting hurt.
But being in love and in a relationship is about taking the chance. There may be hurt, there may not be.
Each time, we fall, we get up stronger.
Just allow as much time as possible to understand each other better.
Don’t do things you’re not comfortable with (yes, I’m also referring to sex). Don’t give in because you’re afraid of losing him. No guy is worth it if he uses sex as a bargaining chip (sorry, guys).
I was an introvert too, and I understand how insecure you feel. How you’re afraid of being alone, without that someone to love, to be loved.
But I assure you, there will always be many more out there who are suitable for you. I’m not saying he is not suitable for you. He may be. Take the time to know each other better. Talk more about each other.
Did i say I was an introvert? Yes. Build your self confidence. Attend speech classes, acting classes, classes that put you in front of many people. It’s scary, yes, but you’ll overcome it.
Keep smiling.

xiaogougou SG

woei, ah xiao, i am just giving my true experiences as a gal, it is still up to TS to digest and take it, even our govt today also can accept and listen to comment for options.

Evey bad gal of singapore behind lies a few bad sg guys. All Bad sg gal also have father, and what is the father doing?

Eh please loh, what kind of experiences are you even relating?

What you should be telling TS is how to judge the guy wooing her is sincere and how she should gauge for herself whether is it worthy to go along with this relationship ~~

However what you are articulating to TS is only to identify what kind of guy to 'chop' ? You are seriously stereotyping guys of different ages, what this age guy is rich, that age guy is poor, this age guy one leg into coffin ..

You are 新花草 and we guys are buffet ? Wah piang eh.. Mind what you say can anot? I truly find your comments quite insulting towards guys loh. Its not like you are the most chio girl in the world that every guy will fall by your feet leh. Save some grace for yourself please.

I hate to spell it out to you, but perhaps you are young and pretty now, you can have a lot of guys at your beck and call. But girl's beauty fade away very soon one loh. A few years down the road, once you find that you are depreciating, if you are not married yet, you'll be forced to consider your options and be glad that even a guy wants you by then !!

好景不长，有没有听过?

I dont find myself a lesser mortal if i am not as rich as some guys loh. As a guy, the most important thing he needs is confidence, sincerity, and be hardworking. Do the best as he can for the girl he cares about.

If you are basing your assumptions about guys just by how much they own, then others will also judge you just for your looks.

Why are you linking the government to this issue? I do not find the relevance in terms of rship and politics loh.

And for god's sake, why drag fathers into the picture?

DONT blame parents ok? I can give you the most screwed up parents, but as long as you want to stay good, no matter what you will stay Good !! You can have the best and most elitist of all parents, but you could end up a no good scoundrel. Even Lee Hsien Loong's son did a number of fked up things loh.

Whether a person is bad or not is a PERSONAL choice, it has nothing to do with the mum and dad !! You are Responsible for your own actions !!'

If you want to give advice, at least give those that are sensible and really useful lah..

Huishan 733 SG

Eh please loh, what kind of experiences are you even relating?

What you should be telling TS is how to judge the guy wooing her is sincere and how she should gauge for herself whether is it worthy to go along with this relationship ~~

好景不长，有没有听过?

If you are basing your assumptions about guys just by how much they own, then others will also judge you just for your looks.

Why are you linking the government to this issue? I do not find the relevance in terms of rship and politics loh.

And for god's sake, why drag fathers into the picture?

Whether a person is bad or not is a PERSONAL choice, it has nothing to do with the mum and dad !! You are Responsible for your own actions !!

Wah xiaogougou! Totally agree with you. Nice one!

TS, you shouldn be too influenced by the comments here. Matters of heart is very hard to say.. you're the one in the situation. Have to see for yourself. Takes time.. don't rush into things.

likeyou SG

Majority of the gals will not want to get hurt by a broken relationship.

When coming to relationship, especially want to broke off, gals are in the losing end compare to guys. Guys will not hurt much really. Especially guys have nothing to loose at all.

angel7030 SG

Not really, today guys are more sissy than last time, I see guys get hurt more than gals, we gals are more independent and stronger today, from sgforums, statistically, you can see more guys get sadden by relationship and make their plight here. So, we are not in the losing end, today no more Harry, we can still go for Jack, Wei Lee, Dr Ang or Nicholas

xiaogougou SG

Is that your 'Guys Buffet' analogy again ? {=_="}

You only have a lot of choices when you are pretty lah, your logic does not apply to all girls loh.

Your assumptions are solely based upon women who are tramps and men who go merely for sex.

angel7030 SG

Huh, no lah, i hv seen guy turns rebellious when he cannot get me, some even wanted to kill me, you must understand that there many kinds of guy out there, and most cannot be trusted, even the most nerdy one will visit those tramp one way or the other, can be due to peer pressure or so call, wanted to know itchness.

Of course some dudes are real good guys, once rejected, they go on with their life and we can still be gd fren, but some turn violence when your reject them, that is why we gals are sometime at six and seven as to how to put in word or signal to a guy we rejected nicely, one wrong words or move only, can make them mad and crazy.

As said, there is only one type of man you can trust, a man who had stop breathing

xiaogougou SG

As said, there is only one type of man you can trust, a man who had stop breathing

Come on loh, miss Angel,

I dun think a guy will just anyhow come to bug you if you didnt drop any hint whatsoever in the 1st place.

And judging from your previous posts, any guy that takes an interest in you is a potential carrot head. You will 'chop' this guy 1st, and ask questions later isnt it? Regardless whether you like him or not ..

Once you've taken advantage of the fella already, you will just kick him aside right? You're this kind of person arent you? Whichever guy has to 'pay a price' for liking you right?

You are a very smart lady, you definitely can guess if a guy likes you or not one. If you dont like the guy, just stay away and refrain from getting into contact with him lah.

Why give him the idea that he stands a chance, but only to be taken for a merry go round at the end? Why toy around with pple's feelings?

Obviously anybody would be pissed in this situation lah. Who wouldnt want to strangle you for that? I would for sure be one of them loh.

Fugazzi SG

TS,
Being mature, being responsible – u can be whatever u want to be and do with your life. It is nobody’s business as long as it does not encroach or take away what another is or wants to be. Someone who cares for u will allow u to be and of course, by allowing u to be, they cannot assume responsiblity for what u are and do. That has to come from u.

As long as u understand that you are being mature and being responsible – u can b e whatever u want to. The maturity and the responsiblity of being oneself is more than enough to see u thru the course of everyday living. Things may be ‘ok’ and yet ‘not be ok’ – but u will manage.

Simply put, if u love, just love , why wonder what is going to happen tomorrow. Of course, it is assuming/presupposing u have it, one can only give or share what one has. By that I mean, what u have INSIDE of u.

Are u loving? are u kind? Are u grateful? Being kind, being loving, being grateful – u have nothing to lose. Cos it is your state of mind and being – u never will lose it. It was created from within u.

Cos u are so ’’self’‘-fullfilled in you (eg. love,acceptance,responsibility, esteem …., that u no longer need to beg that someone love u , appreciate u.
The other may stay/not stay or another may come or not come – it is no longer relevant.

PS – To marry someone or to be with another cos one feels that the other makes me happy, takes care of me, or cos of security or other reasons is consigning oneself to a life of fear and anxiety. This is the predicament of many – unreconciled needs within and expecting the other to … imagine when both are in the same boat! Love never hurts, it is expectation of what another ought to be, what life ought to be, what love ought to be and so many ’’sick’’ thoughts in one’s head that makes living miserable.

LonelyApple SG

get to know him more, maybe even know his family members, if you have feelings for him maybe you should just give it a shot .. dont fear hurt, it is inevitable to experience pain in life.. go with your feelings. . do not live with regrets.

NeiveL SG

No worries , i've known of this couple , where the guy is younger than the woman by 10 years , they're still a very sweet couple =D . I agree with Huishan , matters of heart is difficult to tell , don't get influenced by others =) .

angel7030 SG

Come on loh, miss Angel,

I dun think a guy will just anyhow come to bug you if you didnt drop any hint whatsoever in the 1st place.

Once you've taken advantage of the fella already, you will just kick him aside right? You're this kind of person arent you? Whichever guy has to 'pay a price' for liking you right?

You are a very smart lady, you definitely can guess if a guy likes you or not one. If you dont like the guy, just stay away and refrain from getting into contact with him lah.

Why give him the idea that he stands a chance, but only to be taken for a merry go round at the end? Why toy around with pple's feelings?

Obviously anybody would be pissed in this situation lah. Who wouldnt want to strangle you for that? I would for sure be one of them loh.

Comon lah ah xiao gu gu,

There is phrase saying nothing is free, that include love, you hv to make sacrifices, money and time for it, and nobody put a gun on guys head to say you must go after this gal or that gal, it all the initiative of the guy, if he do fall for it, no problem, but too bad, most or infact, all guys had their weaknesses, and the most common is sex, even an emperor can lose his dynasty to a woman, not to say a typical layman.

For we gals, our time of beauti sexy and pure is only from 15yo to maybe 28yo, after that, we just go for a free fall into the abyss aging, give birth and become fat fat..so if during this period we do not chop if there is an opportunity, but the time 40yo, the chopper also blunt already. By chopping, does mean we do not like the guy, after a few outing of chopping and togetherness, who knows, maybe we do fall for him. So, it could be worth the guy investment, after all, you dun go after girl without a credit card.

What toy with feeling, there are more guys out there toying with our gals feeling, from obedient club to swinger club to those old uncles karaoke club to angel club. Look at those guys flirting with gals, wonder if they ever think of their gfs or wives at home who are lonely and doing all the chores.

angel7030 SG

Not every couple is compatitable, what you see may only on face value, deep inside can be very much different, so, it does not imply that what you had experience or seen can apply to someone. There are all kinds of people out there and certainly with all kind of love relationship.

Let see another for another 20years, I had seen many uncles divorced their old wifes for younger gf.

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