He text me to wanna talk and apologized for his so calledsilly
mistake.. I can’t bring myself to talk to him.. Text him on my
thots and he says he has no comments as he sucks as bf and
husband.. Ball is at my court now.. Gonna take some time off to
think of whether I can accept him or to walk away.. I want very
much be with him.. But On the other hand, don’t like the way I am
treated.. Other issues are just telling me he Bo chup.. :-)
This will be the pattern of your married life. There will be ups
and downs, and some rough patch handled badly by both sides.
But you both have made your decisions to come together and get
married. When everything is rosy mamby pamby, the envy of your
friends, the appearance may be decietful, think Tiger Woods, Arnold
Swatch -what ever. And rough patches are tiring and drains the
energy. Also living is about avoiding pain and desiring pleasure.
But it is not a must that one must be happy all the time. A life
lived well should be the goal.
It boils down to how both of you respond to each other on simple
communications. An innocuous remark would trigger an outburst
because of who knows what. Sometimes "Go where for dinner?" "Don't
know." " You always don't know, with your friends you very clever."
and a fight starts.
Unknown to each other is the remark that hurt cause hurt, and
the barbed retort that escalate matters and things
get out of control, as each try to avenge their past
hurt.
Some thought and intelligence is required on how to react in
future, and avoid gettig into quarrels. Unfortunately you can only
vouch for yourself, as for you husband it is not known. But he did
sms you and apologise, that means he did reflect on his
actions.
It is not that he is a bad person, or you are a silly person, it
is just that both of you don't know how to avoid quarreling. Check
if quarreling comes naturally in both your families. Married
life is usually a continuation of the family life you
know.
You have made the decision to marry him, now decide if you want
to give the marraige a chance. Do you think it has a chance? It is
not going to be a rosy mamby pamby blissful, you know that, but it
is the two of you going through this journey of time together
for the rest of your life. Up and down, warts and all. Only you
know your husband enough to make that decision.
