Nex time talk about it prior to the occasion.........
(after some time have passed)
And if he cannot commit to ending it at 1am...just say you
object.....you have the right to object......that is your home
too......
Say that you object to it.
Anyways this is just one issue. From what I read from your
description, and also your previous thread, it seems like you are
not in a good, positive, healthy, and constructive realtionship,
and maybe you are clinging on to it for the wrong reasons , such
as, not wanting to be alone, and even you mention about it yourself
a few times.
I think if this is really the case, you must seriously evaluate
and think through about your relationship in a fundemantal manner.
Are you getting something positive, constructive, healthy, out of
it. Does it make you feel good, make you feel loved, make you feel
you can grow and develop as a person.
If it is the opposite, where you feel tense, unhappy, depressed,
unfulfilled, and have many quarrels with your spouse......then it
is a negative relationship, and you have to think about it. Why do
you want to continue to keep a negative relationship and emburden
yourself.
I doubt you will be really unhappy as a single, and also I doubt
you cannot find a partner who is more suitable later.
If you are not like a gorilla-ugly, you still have a chance to
find suitable partner. There are lots of men out there. Thousands
of men are looking.
It's up to you and you just decide yourself.
For me if I can be allowed to give you a blunt advice,
Since you are married you need to work hard to save your
marriage and try to compromise and adjust. You need to take
marriage seriously and be committed to it. However, if you are
indeed severely unhappy, divorce can be considered as a last
option.
