I am very frustrated and lost, I cant find solution so just need
some advice.
I met this gal 2 years ago, and fall in love at first sight, she is
divorced with 2 kids.1 week into the relationship she called me one
day and told me someone hack her internet banking account and took
all money out, she only had 3K in it. I told her I can help if she
needed some money, but at that time she mention she will manage and
police is investigating and a week later she got back the money.
She is willing to come out with me for meals and treated me
well, but at times she would start behave indifferent and start a
quarel with no much reasons , and dissappear for few hours, even HP
off.She told me she is doing part time work on every tue and thus
after office as makeup artist.I belived what she said, but soon i
realize she dont pick up calls during her part time. One day she
told me need to stay back untill 10 pm in office to work, but
her office would be locked by 7 pm,i went to fetch her and wait
nearby, I saw a taxi coming in and going in same direction of
her office gate. She would always complain that I dont understand
the difficulties she going through. Couple of months into the
relationship she asked me if I can help her with 30K loan as she
want to take over the flat and need to pay to ex hubby to take over
the flat. I didnt give the money. But after that 1 night i gave her
500 dollars, and she treated me so well. I did belive
initially about her part time, but she would always chicken out if
I ask where is your part time work place. She would often take half
days and some times dont reply my calls. I got more
frustrated, one day she plan to take half day to go for seminar,
that night I couldnt take it and look for PI. When i was driving to
PI place, she msg me if I really love her? I replied I do love me,
next day I told her I would send you to your seminar , and PI
followed me, I could see she keep looking in side mirror of my car.
Later I found out she downloaded some spy software into my HP and
can listen to all my conversations/msg. I was frustrated how come
she knows everything I do. One day she took another half day to go
HDB office, I send the PI, she manage to find out , and told me her
hubby is sending her home as he was at HDB office too. But PI told
me, she was alone there and he just came and pick her up.I wnet
ballastic, and even more frustrated.
We went for trip to NZ, i gave her 1K NZ dollar to keep, when we
reached NZ, she told me she misplace the money I gave her. I
said never mind I have some money with me. As time passed by I grew
more suspicious of her behaviour, I even confided to my ex gf, who
is now good freind of mine. She ask me to be careful. One day I ask
her, how much do you earn from your part time, she told me 500, I
told her i will give you same money ,please stop your part
time. In order to help her I even start giving her 1K. One
day we had quarel and she told me she need meet up with her ex
boss to discuss something as he is starting some business. We
went to changi airport and she spoke to him for 2 hours, i was at
some distance. Later she told me she need to work part time for him
every sat morning for 2 hours at his housee. He is Japanese
and in late 50's and stay alone here. I was frustrated and told her
not to go, even had major quarel. During the quarel she
mention ,he is more dependable. During the quare she told, her boss
even agree for once a week. While I am writing this she is at his
house and I am really frustrated. I thought if I pay 1K every month
to her,she would stop going to his house but she still going to his
house. She told me he pays her 500 dollars, and after I start
paying her 1K, she told me he going to increase her pay. When i
relate everything that happened in past all relates well for her
disspperance for few hours every sat morning and sometimes in
evening. I am very sure she is sleeping with him for money and
maybe security for future. I love her very much , but I cant accept
her sleeping with another man. While I am writing ,she is at his
place, you can imagine the pain I am going through. This Boss was
with her for 15 years. She is working as manager and earns 4K per
month, I am willing to support her but she trusts her ex boss more
than me. Please advice me, I need to break her from this Japanese
men.