the right thing to do?

last SG · 2011-02-22T21:02:12+00:00

director and actor too...hahahaha...

angel7030 SG

I think it is out of respect that we let the our male gender to take the initiative and initutive, because if we take the initiatives, guys will act very stuck up and howlian

PedoBear SG

got... masochists also like to look for powerful women...

masochists look for dominatrix not powerful women

Askingyouto SG

Ask won't die one, if never ask, also won't die one.

It's only a matter of what you are willing to let go.

Complex is when things are many and cluttered.

angel7030 SG

I beg to differ,

Ask for what, if want to come, it will automatically come, if dun wan to come, wait until hair white also no come. Come come go go is just a wind of life

jaydunkfull SG

im 21

how old are u ?

jaydunkfull SG

1) i avoid him because im trying to get over him. im trying to get over him because i need to stop allowing myself to be sad over him. because there probably is no chance since he isnt making any move. so i shall end it on my terms. 2) yes, i still like him, and thats why it hurts still. i think i dont even treat him as a normal friend. we're more like strangers. just hi-bye friends already. 3) nope, it is assumed that we both do not like each other. hence we do not talk about liking each other at all

1. Why you avoid him? You have some feeling for that guy?

2. Ask yourself, do you still love him? or treat him as a casual friend?

3. Did you ever talk to talk alone about this crashes?

If you really dont have a liking on him, I suggest you better concentrate on your studies. Get good result is more impt than having a bf.

jaydunkfull SG

in the past, i dont want to let him know because i think it will affect our friendship. things might get awkward. now, i just want to forget it ever happened

are you living in the middle ages?

if you like him but he dunno/dont dare to confess to you then you let him know

thinking back, there are a few girls giving me signals back during my secondary school time but i was too dense to notice it

now they come and tell me they had crush on me but i already not available

wasted man, some prettier than my current gf but relationship is a commitment

jaydunkfull SG

true..but i wont dare to tell him. would love to once and for all tell him how im feeling and to like let him know hes the cause of my misery..but i cant, not till we graduate i guess, so i wont have to deal with the awkwardness if something went wrong

dealing with it is much more easier then running away...

Running might seem easier but it gets tougher and tougher... dealing with it just gives 1 shot pain... might as well eh?

jaydunkfull SG

YA LOR

Sure lah, guy confess more gentleman mah, very malu for us to confess ok, but some guys are simple make of wooden block, char tao.

jaydunkfull SG

yeah..guess if he really wants it, he will come looking for me. if i go to him, im making myself at his disposal. besides, i wont have courage to confess, because i fear rejection. so i want to end it on my terms, by getting over him. im avoiding him like a plague. but wo bu gan xing. thats why its so hard for me to move on. deep inside, i feel like there is a tiny shard of hope, and that he did like me before. maybe not enough, thats why hes not doing anything. thats why im so heartbroken, because i have already fallen so much harder than he did.

I beg to differ,

Ask for what, if want to come, it will automatically come, if dun wan to come, wait until hair white also no come. Come come go go is just a wind of life

Fcukpap SG

u dun have to avoid him...

and u shouldn't have been too harsh on him just becos he didn't make it feel your way...

likewise...as a woman, you wouldn't wanna be forced to feel his way....

i really feel women perception should change towards opening up to a balanced way of harmonizing and handling relationships...than just avoid and escape....

a lot of things take time to develop....

be nice to him too as well as u wanna be treated the same way...things should improve..

jaydunkfull SG

sigh. i do feel bad when i ignore him on msn when he talks to me. i do that because i know that i would spiral back to the cycle if i start it again. and i dont want to feel emo and sad over him again. how do i be nice to him and not suffer the consequences later on? because any interaction with him just makes me feel so emo after that, knowing that its not possible, and that i cant have what i want. thats why i choose to escape, even though some part of me sometimes do wanna talk to him. but i force myself to not do that.

81 SG

u tink too much.
i belief u juz post to throw ur stress away n give wadever reason for ur escape.
by posting here, it makes u feel better.
u need listening ear, not advice.

jaydunkfull SG

true. i need a listening ear.

but i want to verify my actions and see if there are other remedies out there. i want to know if escaping or confronting is a better answer for now. but i guess more or less ive chosen the escape route and am hoping that this option turns out for the best.

likeyou SG

If u hv make up yr mind, then move on. Dont avoid him. You are making him and yourself more stressful. Study hard is your main priority. Bf relationship can be later.

PedoBear SG

im 21

if you are pretty, come see me.

i'll make a move straight away

Nelstar SG

true. i need a listening ear.

Escaping will make it worse.

Confronting will make it uncomfortable.

The best way to is to re-direct your thoughts into something else.

Julian.khor SG

Did he misled u? What did he do? U neva state full detail of how he became close to u so I canot evaluate yer situation.

Let be fair to yer guy fren, he is just a school kid, so he probably got no idea about you liking him. You avoiding him n boycotting him, is being a bit unfair isn;t it? I dun understanding why you say, everybody at school is talking about both of you, as if you both are the "in" thing. It is not as if, he walked away from yer wedding ceremony, rite?

If this continue to hurt you. There r two ways for you to confront the matter.

First - Confess yer feelings to him. Tell him, u want to speak to him privately. If u feel u r afraid to tell him, confine wif ur close fren and ask them, how you can approach him. Lets hear from him, what he thinks of it. If he is not interested - means "he is not tat into you".

Second - Forget about it. Concentrate on yer studies. Your guy fren is just a schoolboy, what does he know about relationship? Dun pile all the guilt on him.

I write to u to help u so that u dun turn into one of the bitter n miserable forumer here, the old lady Golum (littlemissbonker) who hav been roaming around Mordor, screaming precious precious cock, bcause got dump by something.

U still young, u have a future, u can change. Wat? A guy fren can hurt u so bad. I say again, if he really cause so much confusion in u, best way is to confess yer feelings to him n talk to him privately. Whatever the answer - case close - go on with yer life.

jaydunkfull SG

thanks julian.khor.

yup, guess he did mislead me. maybe it wasnt his intention. our friendship grew via msn chats which became very very frequent. he would initate chats, then he started talking to me very single day. i used to go to his tutorial room during our breaks to just chit chat. we became very close friends. i guess things started from there.

maybe to him, he was just seeing me a very good friend. but for me, it was like. guess it felt good to have someone pay attention to me and always wanting to talk to me.

and yup, studies more important definitely. he’s an adult, im an adult. he’s freaking 23 years old. i think he shouldnt be that dense as to not know or feel anything going on.

Julian.khor SG

thanks julian.khor.

maybe to him, he was just seeing me a very good friend. but for me, it was like. guess it felt good to have someone pay attention to me and always wanting to talk to me.

and yup, studies more important definitely. he’s an adult, im an adult. he’s freaking 23 years old. i think he shouldnt be that dense as to not know or feel anything going on.

He is either just not tat into u or he may hav somebody else in mind. Like I said, if the issue is so distracting to u, why dun u settle it by asking him out privately n confessing how u feel about him? Then all clear.

Look, there r other guys worse than him. Some go n con gal's money. Some go n cheat around. Some beat up their partners. All he did was being dense. Does he deserve to be treated tis way? Just act normal n forget it.

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